subject: Break Up Mistakes – Are You Pushing Him Away? [print this page] There are certain break up mistakes that woman make which push men away. Find out what you may be doing wrong - don't make these break up mistakes and you can have your guy begging you for commitment.
If you have been dumped you are probably feeling massive amounts of rejection and a loss in self esteem. This can lead to very inappropriate and self defeating behavior that will spell disaster for anyone trying to win back their ex.
Here are some common break up mistakes and why they will NEVER work to get him back:
Trying to reason and argue with him about why he should take you back
This makes you look desperate and will never appeal to his emotions. He needs to be the one figuring out why he wants you back not the other way around. The best approach is to accept the decision, agree with it and avoid all combat.
Telling him repeatedly how much you love and care for him
He knows this; there is no need to become sad and pathetic. Declarations of love may work in the movies, but in real life they are a sign of weakness and completely ineffective.
Showing how depressed and miserable you are
This is particularly unattractive and ineffective. You need to take back your power and show him WHY he wants to be with you. Think about it nobody wants to be around someone who is sad and miserable don't let that be YOU
Using guilt tricks such as money, kids, or some other manipulative leverage
All this will do is make you look more pathetic, give him more power and push him away because he feels pressures. Remember, you need to back off. He needs to be the one that comes back to you. Dirty tricks are too obvious. Doing nothing is sometimes the biggest action you can take
Apologizing profusely and swearing that you will change
As vulnerable as you may feel and as much as you want to take the blame just to get him back, this is completely ineffective. You will lose your dignity; confirm to him that he has made the right decision because you are the one saying so. If you are repeatedly apologizing and explaining your bad behavior, you are essentially telling him what he is already thinking that the breakup is a good thing.
Get this break up guide to reverse the situation around and have him crazy about you.
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