subject: How To Get Over A Girl - Right Now [print this page] It's been said that the shortest time in the world is when the lights change from red to green on a New York City Traffic light. That must mean that the longest time starts when she tells you it's finished to when you finally meet someone new. That's usually how it feels anyway, to guys searching for quick methods of how to get over a girl. Here are five quick tips to implement right now.
Quick Tip #1 - Be with friends.
Okay, confession time. You didn't by any chance forget who your real friends were all the time you were seeing her did you? Be honest now. If that was the case, take the opportunity to put things straight and re-build your friendships. Come clean and tell them what you did if you have to - the proper buddies will stick with you anyway. Being alone while you're going through the stages of recovery isn't the best way to speed it up.
Quick Tip #2 - Keep your brain occupied.
Shakespeare said that "Nothing is good or bad, except thinking makes it so." Don't spend more time than you have to mulling over what happened, instead keep your brain occupied by reading, taking a qualification or maybe learning a new skill at your local community college.
Quick Tip #3 - Get some exercise.
If you already play sports and take exercise, great. If not, this is the ideal opportunity to do so. Regular exercise is an essential part of good physical health, but were you aware of the psychological benefits too? Physical exercise releases endorphins into the nervous system that help to make you feel good, which is why it's an ideal part of how to get over a girl. The end of a workout or a game is always a satisfying time - almost as good as having a beer afterwards.
Quick Tip #4 - Remove all reminders of her.
Yep, it's all got to go. Photos, films, special gifts and anything else that has memories of her attached to it has to disappear. Any items that drag you back into the times you were together is best taken down and got rid of. Trash can is best, a box in the attic if you must.
Quick Tip #5 - Set some new goals.
Part of the pain and hurt you're feeling comes from the loss of the future plans you made together. As human beings, we don't tend to cope too well with uncertainty, and if you stop and think about it, a large portion of your future that used to be certain has now been thrown up into the air and made un-certain. A good way of regaining a sense of certainty is to begin creating some new goals, and planning how you're going to achieve them.
Planning for the future can be quite exciting, and perhaps there was something you secretly wanted to do, but was putting off? Now's the time to stretch yourself and realise what a clean sheet of paper and the rest of the world could hold in store for you.
You may have noticed that a common thread in this piece on how to get over a girl is staying occupied. Much of the sadness and loneliness after a break-up comes from too much rumination and self reflection. Find lots of alternative things to occupy your mind and body, and the feelings of hurt and loss will start to fade into the distance.
