subject: The Art Of Flirting [print this page] The question of how to attract attention with anyone, your boss, a friend, a women or a man is a basic push pull drama that is played out. The methods are similar because cat and mouse games work
Push/pull attraction understanding between people is about creating rapport and then breaking it and re-establishing it. But, first establish rapport. Then and only then should you even think about starting the push/pull game. You'll not get a second chance if you did not create rapport in the first place.
When you're hitting it off and have taken time and not rushed it uncomfortably, you' established a rapport bond. If you jump into agreement too quickly, you may not have established a solid enough foundation.
You'll need to feel confident, not needing approval from others by caring about what they think, not carry limiting beliefs and have self-discipline not get impatient and jump out of rapport.
Having a good story line is a good beginning to push-pull flirting. Like any good movie or melodrama, there is conflict and resolution repeated again and again which compels engagement.
And likewise, in human interaction, this hook in the story line gets one interested. This can be done in many different ways. Some overtly, some by subvert gestures. Teasing is another popular way this interaction can occur.
So in conversation, you begin with rapport and then choose to break rapport. They will qualify themselves to you and then you grant them the report. You'll need some courage and motivation to get out there and connect socially and spark the interaction by being in the moment and not in your head.
Say you meet someone and have established a good rapport and they tell you that they are an accountant. You pull back and tell them that them they are such nerds. You tell them how they could get into such a tax-dodge business and play push them away. Then they feel compelled to tell you what they do is on the up and up and required a lot of study and application. You tell them,: "It's OK." And tell them that's pretty cool. You might say: "You're pretty smart to study that."
Human-to-human connections are awakened through conversational exchanges. Men judge the chemistry giving more weight to appearances. Women, on the other hand, judge by many other factors that conversations reveal.
