subject: How To Get Your Ex-boyfriend Back - Without Losing Your Pride [print this page] I have seen this scenario all too many times: there is a unexpected break-up and the man moves on rather quickly with his life. Instead of moving forward herself, the woman remains extremely attached to the ex and the broken relationship. Winning her ex back becomes her single goal in life. She grovels, pleads, and stalks him online and offline. Eventually, she makes tragic compromises in order to win him back, only now she is unhappy because she has agreed to not to do things that are naturally her and she is living a lie.
The ultimate issue here is how to get your ex-boyfriend back without sacrificing yourself in the process. To avoid making these mistakes in your own life, become familiar with the two biggest ways women surrender themselves while trying to get their ex boyfriend back.
Throwing Pride Out The Window
When you grovel, cry, pout, and make scenes in public places in attempt to get your ex back, you are throwing away a huge part of yourself: your pride! When you allow the intense pain and grief of the separation to take over your senses and reduce yourself to acting like a baby or madwoman lacking control, you are not likely to get your ex boyfriend back...you are more likely to push him further away!
Displaying your desperation is the last thing you want to do when attempting to win your ex boyfriend back. It's common after separation to feel as if you cannot move on without him, but he must never know you feel like that! You are giving him all the power in the relationship when you grovel because he knows he can make unrealistic demands and you are likely to agree just to rekindle the relationship. That brings us to the other way women often lose themselves while running after an ex...
Giving Away Happiness
Many relationships eventually come back together when one person agrees to a concession. For example, a woman may agree to stop going to Friday girl's night out with her friends to stay home with an insecure boyfriend. Sometimes, a woman will promise to end certain friendships that her ex really didn't care for. These concessions are dangerous because they sacrifice a part of the woman which will eventually lead to sadness and resentment which will eventually force the relationship to break off again.
If you can discover how to get your ex boyfriend back without giving up any part of yourself (and that includes your power and dignity), the new relationship will have a greater chance of actually working out.
