subject: How To Get Over Your Ex: 7 Killer Break Up Tips! Get Over Your Ex FAST! [print this page] How do I stop thinking obsessively about my ex? Effective Tips To get over Your Ex Easily and Fast!
Once an important relationship is over, especially if it's a marriage, we're left with a very bitter taste of what it was; and the whole situation seems a mess...and we don't know what to do...
We blame the other or we're blamed for the problems, we are sad it's over and don't want to believe that's the reality...
...And sometimes it feels like the emotional hurting is more than you can bear, so after breaking up what do you do to get over your ex easily?
Be patient, extremely patient! It takes a lot of time to really get over relationships that meant something...if it meant plenty that's why it hurts so bad. Have realistic expectations, you probably won't get over your break up in 2 or 3 days. Be grateful because it happened, even if it's over and you wish it lasted forever. Try to move on, knowing that the change can only help you and make you feel better.
Forgive. Your Ex is not perfect, we're only human. We all have personal things to deal with...Don't put all the blame in your ex and pay attention to your judgmental thoughts, hard as it sounds one day you'll want to forgive your ex...the quicker the better!
Don't think it was YOU. Don't take it all personally. It's not your fault you're not what he or she was looking for or they didn't know how to appreciate the gem in you. Regain confidence and self-esteem and go back to who you are. Your attitude of mind is key. Be strong with a lot of feelings and good energy and the world will be a better place for you and the ones around you and those that care for you. Don't look sad and helpless. That's not who you really are, who you were before this happened...remember?
Gain control of yourself, your feelings and reactions. You can be fine and get along very well on your own, so don't let the other get you down with hurtful attitudes (those you wouldn't have yourself) or comments. Try to understand the situation and analyze motivators, forgive and move on knowing you can control how you feel, even if sometimes you can't help some tears from falling, you can get over it! Think of the many other times you thought you couldn't...
Let go. Aim at letting go all the resentment, the anger, the frustration because it only hurt you more and make the challenge harder for yourself. Don't keep thinking about what could have been, or what shouldn't have been done, it is what it is and all you can do if focus on how you are going to act NOW.
If you really do your best, you could trigger positive reactions on your ex and maybe help work out the problems within the relationship, maybe even lead to a sort of weird friendship or new kind of relationship. It's your call and you'll have to decide what's best for you and matches your feelings and dreams.
Ask for help if need be. If you need some support or just someone to listen to you, like a good friend, by all means do it. A good source of honest support can make all the difference sometimes in this kind of difficult situations within a relationship.
Also try to do things you enjoy more often: Go out with friends, go to the movies, ask your friend to walk her dog every now and then, no matter what it is you do as long as you can enjoy your time. You can even use this to break some of those impulses to call, to ask to talk...etc. If you succeed even in little things, give yourself a pat in the back, maybe a little reward to help you stay strong and focused on what it is you want and how you're going to achieve it.
Try to find your comfort zone within yourself. Maybe it isn't a good idea to see your ex for a while, try to take some distance from the relationship and learn from your sensations, fears and emotions. See what happens with your feelings and try to find answers to why you don't want this relationship to end. Understanding your own feelings and fears can only make things easier for yourself in getting over your ex...
I know you can get over your ex, I did. I won't lie, it still hurts a bit when I think about it but it's not the same. You can get to your own comfort zone and learn to cherish the relationship without regrets or feelings of frustration. Follow these easy yet effective tips and finally get over you ex!
