subject: The Greatest Gift For A Relationship Is Appreciation [print this page] Are you giving your relationship a hundred and ten percent? Can you honestly say that you've done everything you can to make you relationship the best it possibly can be? If it where to end tomorrow would you have any regrets or guilt because you didn't give the partnership your best shot?
Nobody wants to feel that they are at fault for a failed relationship, for a lost lover. Well, it takes two hands to knit, as they say. For sure, some partnerships were never meant to be. Wars have been fought because of this eternal truth. But fate does not weigh so heavily on most of our common heads. Many relationships that were meant to be were allowed to die because of a lack of appreciation. Basic understanding and respect were allowed to fall away; reflection and desire on how to improve things fell away, too.
Start anew. The best way to strengthen a relationship, and one of the best, is rediscovering what appreciation means. Focus on what you have, not what you lack. Lacking is just that, lacking. You need to be looking, looking at what is worthy of appreciation. No matter how badly you may feel about your relationship right now, start to look. Lift every carpet, scour every corner; you will find a forgotten earring, a small note, that will tell you something about your special relationship and the things to be appreciated. This is an allegorical way to tell you that no matter how slim the chances may seem, rescuing a relationship really involves little more than looking for ways to appreciate it. But, don't just dwell on why you appreciate your relationship; you have a lot to appreciate singly which can cause you to appreciate doubly.
When is the last time you and your partner went to a dance bar and stayed until the last fandango? Which one of you danced in a wheelchair? When was the last time you went to a doctor? This morning, how did you feel about jumping out of bed, taking a shower, and fixing your own breakfast? There are so many who can't do that. When last were you able to have rough and tumble sex? Many can't do that either. Or even experience orgasm. So, right off the bat you and your partner have a whole bunch of things to appreciate right there. Health is a gift to be appreciated. Both for you and your partner.
Where do you and your partner stand compared to the rest of the world? Go to a park, have a seat on a bench. Watch the procession that has already begun. Rich and poor will pass before you. Idiots and thinkers, tailors and tinkers, the shy and the winkers, will all pass with aplomb.
Watching this stream of humanity will give you things to think about as far as where you want to go and what you want to avoid. It will help you discern who needs help. Remember, you have no real equals, there are only those who are better off than you are and worse off than you are. You are your own guide.
Do you own a lot of stuff? That could be good, if you and your partner appreciate it. Have you worked hard together to get it? Did you do it for happiness? Did you do it for each other? Then appreciate it. Appreciation is your gift back to the powers of life, the powers that brought you to each other and the powers that helped you build together. Appreciation is a powerful word. Put it to work in your lives together. You may appreciate candy and flowers, you'll appreciate true love even more.
Give yourself the opportunity to feel pride for your accomplishments. It's not arrogance to know you have a life to be thankful for, rather it's the greatest compliment to the universe. Not only this but it acknowledging and understanding that you are grateful for what you have will attract more of the same into your life.
