subject: Discover The Causing Factors Of Borderline Personality Disorder Abandonment [print this page] Is Borderline Personality Disorder Abandonment a secret to you and striving to understand its triggering factors?
To start with, BPD is a mental disorder which means that it is determined by the unhealthy ways we see and interpret ourselves and other people.
And much of these perception patterns are acquired from influential other persons like our parents, caregivers, teachers, lovers, friends, or superiors.
We are usually unaware of these perception patterns since we learn them unconsciously from others.
This also indicates by the way that they can be replaced through the very same learning and habit creation process.
Now let's move further to the causing reasons of borderline personality disorder abandonment.
In BPD, possibly the fundamental reason in regard to its causes is comprised by specific unsupportive early life experiences.
At birth we come to this world with a couple of essential emotional and mental wants which nature made us to rely on our genitors or caregivers to be met.
Such needs are care, love, affection, respect, and bonding.
Now not all of us were born in ideal families, so when these wants aren't fulfilled for long time periods, the child assumes unconsciously that he or she is an damnable individual and it is very possible for others to behave similarly with him as his/her parents or caregivers.
Leading to the sentiment of abandonment, which is actually an abandonment of his/her emotional and mental demands.
Thus since this abandonment appeared in a relationship with other important ones, it will manifest in relationships and interactions with other important persons.
For example, a BPD sufferer with abandonment phobia will be needy and submissive in one moment, than incensed, insulting, and scornful the next.
Why someone who is frightened of being abandoned will act in such ways that will lead others do just that?
The ground is that BPDs are exceptionally sensitive to any small things, acts, and cues that may suggest abandonment from others. Therefore when this becomes a fact in the sufferer's mind, even though in reality it isn't, they are facts that support his/her judgements to be afraid of being abandoned.
Which is unbearable, resulting in the speedy affective changes and impulsive demeanours.
Since commonly the assumption of abandonment isn't supported in reality, it implies that the inclination to draw such conclusions is acquired by learning. And it can be changed with new good and helpful dispositions through acquireing and repetition.
As an example, next time when you will perceive desertion or punishment from a close person of yours, hold back for a second and try to appraise if your inference is sustained in reality. You will most likely realize that the other person was trying to draw up or to discuss something with you.
Learn to see things from others' positiontoo and you will soon realize that not everyone is working to harm you.
