subject: The Reason Behind Social Skills [print this page] "How do I teach my child social skills, when I don't know how to make friends?"
"How do you have time to maintain a friendship when life is so busy with work and kids?"There are questions that were asked by adult participants about their lack of intimate friends at my workshop. The evidence is overwhelming on why good peer relationships enhance the quality of life and learning for children as well as adults.
How adults manage social situations affects the way those children around them view human interaction. People wants to have a meaningful relationship that add pleasure and joy to the quality of life. They will look for the similar qualities in their friends, when the extended circle of caring nurtures the individual.
Friendship is describe as the springboard to every other love. Communication and interaction skills learned with friends spill over into every other relationship in life. Those who have no friends also tend to have a diminished capacity for sustaining marriages, work and neighborhood relationships.
Share a pot luck meal before or after the game, if your children are involved in extra-curricular activities. The soccer team in which my son is in had a pasta meal before every game, rotating between houses of players and coaches. Making a bond of support and friendship that moved beyond the soccer field.
You can make a friend by being approachable and open to others. 55% of the emotional meaning of a message is expressed through body language and non-verbal language is the communication of relationships. The tone of our voice is the other 38% which is the other one transmitted. Expressed by words is only 7%. The language of information is verbal language which may or may not be remembered. When you smile and look people in the eye, extend your hand and ask to be included, you will be. If you have self confidence others will like you.
Making friends can be learned.Like many life skills, they may not be easy, but they are simple and just need to be practiced until they become second nature. To build a network of people you can trust and care for and who will in turn be loyal and kind to you, yes it can take time and effort. To find a support system to be with in the good times and the not so good times that accompany all of us in life it is well worth the effort.Building and maintaining relationships will be one of the most rewarding projects of your life.
