subject: Seven Steps To Save Your Marriage [print this page] Your husband having an affair is most likely one of the worst things that could happen to your marriage. Trying to save your marriage in the aftermath of the affair is not going to easy, how can it be when right now you're feeling betrayed, disgusted, humiliated and unloved.
However what you need to hold onto, if you truly desire to save your marriage, is that though your husband as let you down in a very hurtful and bad way, if there is still some love between the two of you, then there is a real chance to save this marriage.
7 Steps to Save a Marriage
1) You need to listen to what he has to say! I understand you may or may not want to hear a word that comes out of his mouth, but if you're serious about repairing your marriage it is the only way. Clearly something was wrong somewhere in the marriage and that's why he looked outside of the marriage.
2) Explain to him how you feel! Do not fall within the trap of expecting your husband to realize how you feel. You must tell him the pain that his actions have caused. You have to make sure that he fully understands the turmoil and devastation that he caused.
3) Forgive and in due time move on! It isn't going to take place over night, but if you really want your marriage to go on, then you are going to have to forgive your husband for his betrayal and move on together.
4) You must learn to trust him again! Again, this is not going to be an easy over night thing, but it's something you're going to have to do to make this work. If every time he steps out of the door or makes a call on his cell you start worrying and stressing, that will only put pressure on the marriage.
5) Spend more time together! As soon as you start to come through the trauma of suffering from your husband's affair, then to keep the marriage healthy and your relationship happy, the two of you need to spend more time together. Whatever caused the affair will creep back into the marriage if you don't stay physically, emotionally and spiritually connected. Best way to do that is to spend time together.
6) You both need to fall in love with each other again! Even though you both have probably never stopped loving each other, to repair your marriage, you're both going to have to find the spark of love between you both. Again, this will take time, but it is possible.
7) Marriage repair help! You and your husband could get to a specific point regarding your marriage alone, but to really complete the job you're going to need expert marriage repair help.
So an affair does not need to mean the end of your marriage, you can save a marriage and it starts by following ALL of the outlined points.
