subject: Coping With Breakup - 5 Easy Ways For An Effective Coping [print this page]
It is difficult in coping with break up. No matter how hard to cope with break up, your way of thinking can also affect your difficulty of coping. Even if time will only tell that you are healed, patiently wait as time will also heal all the negative feelings inside your heart.
"He will always be the one" "I still love him even if i hate him".
"I can't forget him forever".
Probably you have used one of these phrases during your broken heart moment. Coping with break up can be so hard to deal with.You may have experienced many heartbreaks in the past, but the pain from the past and until now is just the same. Being separated with the one you love is just so painful than ever.The hurt, the despair, the sadness and the feeling that your world just all drift apart, look as though they'll go on forever. So here are the following advices that can help you cope with break up:
I. Expressing your anger
II. Love your friends more..
III. Avoiding everything about him
IV. Loving yourself
V. Allow changes
I. Anger is a normal response after the break up, and for you to let go of that you can express it in a therapeutic way; if you want to shout, cry and throw pillows anywhere in your room, you can do so. However,It's not at all advisable to do something destructive to yourself or to others; don't waste your time hurting yourself because it won't help you. Hurting yourself cannot make him love you again. It's best to acknowledge your anger and all other emotions after the break up and find so many ways to forget it.You can do lots of activities such as blog writing, sports, cooking lessons, etc. just any activity that can make you feel productive in a way.
II. Your boyfriend may leave you but your friends will not.Spend some time with your friends, as in go on a sing along or have some girl talks over coffee. Having great time with your friends and having that good laugh with them is so incomparable that you may not experience when you were with your boyfriend before.
III. You can easily cope up with things that hurt when you do not see or remember your ex.To be good friends with your ex is not that easy to dwell especially your break up is not that good; so take time to think things over. Keeping all the pictures in your room, or any thing that he has given you will make the process of coping up difficult. Avoid all means of communication to allow smooth flow of coping up.
IV. Yes, this is the best time to treat yourself anything that makes you happy and do anything that you love.Maybe when you were in a relationship, you were not able to do things that you like.Going on a shopping with new clothes, having your hair done, treating yourself with a body spa and all other things that you can possibly do to make you feel better.But the most important thing to do is to keep moving forward despite all the painful experienced that the break up caused you.
V. Acceptance is the most important and valuable part of coping.So the best way to do acceptance is to face the reality and accept that your relationship is over.
Coping with break up may take too long before you can finally say that the hurt is all gone. So you really need to be as honest with yourself during the healing process. Do not live with lies like you are telling to yourself you have moved on where in fact you haven't. Never blame anyone for what happened in the relationship. As you try to look back on the relationship, you may be able to learn from it about yourself, your partner and in the relationship.If you are able to see the main reason what went wrong in the relationship, you can actually make better choices next time.
