subject: What to avoid when getting your ex back [print this page] Every person who has been in a relationship knows that it takes a hard work and dedication to get your ex back. There are a number of tricks and techniques to getting your ex back into a relationship, however, not all of these tricks work, and sometimes, they can actually cause you to ruin your chances of getting back together. Here are a few of these techniques that you should try to AVOID in order to successfully get back together with your ex.
Don't be all buddy buddy
Being too friendly with an ex can be a problem, particularly since you used to be romantically involved. Keep in mind that normal rules that apply to couples don't apply to you anymore. This will only cause problems with your ex, and ruin your chances of getting back together. Contrary to what you may be thinking you don't need to talk to your ex every day. If you feel the need to be around him/her every day and become her friend your ex will start to think of you has a good friend. Eliminating any chances you had to get back together. She is looking for someone to be romantically involved with not someone to go shopping with.
Jealousy is not a weapon to Get Back Together
Dating someone else to make your ex jealous is pretty much the dumbest thing you can do. It usually has the opposite effect and pushes them the opposite way. If your ex does jealous, its pretty likely ha/she will try to retaliate by making you jealous. If that happens, the both of you will just be stuck in a loop of making each other jealous and not getting anywhere.
Desperation will be your failure
Showing desperation makes it too easy to get back together with you. Your ex wants that thrill of a new relationship again, and if its too easy he/she will go elsewhere. Remember, you want to bring back some mystery in the relationship.
Don't beg
For crying out loud, keep your pride. Do not i repeat do not go knocking on your ex on your hands and knees begging to get your ex back. This will often have the opposite effect. Your ex will associate you and your relationship with you crying on your hands and knees.
Do not shove Your Ex into the same relationship that caused the break up
Does forcing anybody to do anything usually work out in the end? uhh no! If nothing else, after you have forced him/her back into a failed relationship, then everything will be the same as it was before. Nothing has been fixed. Seriously who wants a relationship based on that? Your ex will only resent you for it down the road. Thus perpetuating the cycle.
You want your ex to truly want to get back together with you, and forcing him/her to do so is not the way to do it.
