subject: How To Look At The Giving Of The Two Sides In The Process Of Love [print this page] Some people said love is selfless; we should give more love to others. While other people said, how can we love others if we don't love ourselves? Our love philosophy is different from each other, which raises different oaths about love. In any case, which would you choose, give more love or get more love from others?
Before discussing how much love we should give or get, the first thing is to know what love is; it's a subtle feeling between families, friends, and lovers. It's invisible and untouchable, but we could feel its existence. Everyone is eager for love and care from others, if you always want to get, not to give, the result is no one will love you anymore.
Traditionally, men should take the responsibility to support the family, women are supposed to take care of the family. However, entering into the 21th century, the traditional concept has changed for us; women are also involving themselves actively in earning money. At the same time women still take most responsibly for the managing of their families. For example, after get off from work, they have to rush home to cook or do other household work. About this, some men may argue that they do help their wives or girlfriends a lot with the household work, but the main manager of a family will still be the wife not the husband. So considering this I think females deserve more cares and loves.
After realizing these, I think the wisest way is that women learn to love yourselves first, we need to learn to protect ourselves, especially girls, they are easy to be hurt. We have seen all kinds of stories from TV or films, someone who always pays out is hurt deeply, you give a lot all the time but get a little, others won't take you seriously, they think that's your responsibility, they don't know to be gratitude and respect for you. Self-respect is very important, if you look down upon your feeling, no one will attach importance to. On the contrary, someone who got love should cherish it, because love won't always accompany you.
Sometimes, it is the wisest way that love can hold scale, but what scale depends on the other side. The other side has a feeling of stress when you only focus on the other side. To women, they lost easily themselves while loving the other. Therefore, it is important that women must have own space that belong to you in love. Otherwise, you can be discarded by the other people.
In a word, Whatever you experienced, experiencing or will experience love, please respect love and your lover, if you want to be happy, love your partner and dont forget to gain yours.
