subject: Weigh Up All The Pros And Cons First - Before You Try To Get Your Ex Back! [print this page] Yes, you are utterly miserable after the break up, and yes, you feel as if your world will end if you don't get your ex back, but are you thinking clearly right now? Have you thought properly about your reasons for wanting to get back together again?
Okay, so you and your ex were together for quite a long time, but was the relationship all it was cracked up to be, or are you only yearning to get your ex back for the simple reason of having a partner in your life? It's understandable that you feel totally lost without your ex by your side, but is this a good enough reason to want to get the relationship back on track again? Why do you specifically want to get your ex back?
For instance, you were the one who just loved the idea of having the opportunity to do everything for your ex. Did your ex treat you in the same way?
You doted on your ex - you always made sure to do anything to keep your ex happy - you felt that this was your purpose in the relationship. This is great and very noble of you, but did this work both ways, or was it totally one-sided?
If you were in need of a little attention, or, if you were ill, or, when you just needed some moral support sometimes, was your ex always there for you as well, or did you have to muddle through these times on your own?
I'm asking you all of these questions to try and make you aware of something. You were so intent on being the one to keep your ex happy at all times, that it never ever struck you that you weren't getting the same attention from your ex. The attention was all from you to your ex, and hardly ever the other way round.
Now that you are aware of these things, please do yourself a big favor, think very carefully about your reasons for wanting to get your ex back into your life again before you actually do something about it. It might be a good idea for you to get involved with someone else for a while - maybe then you will see how a fifty-fifty relationship is supposed to be - maybe then you will change your mind.
Weigh Up All The Pros And Cons First - Before You Try To Get Your Ex Back!
