subject: Get Rid Of The Trauma Of The Break Up First If You Want To Get Your Ex Back! [print this page] Some people just don't realize how traumatic a break up really is. All they know is that they are feeling so depressed and bitter about what has happened, and they actually believe that the solution to this problem is to contact their exes at all costs to try and fix the problem. If you're in this position, please listen when I tell you that this is NOT the way to get your ex back.
You must understand that the unpleasantness of a break up is a huge weight to carry around with you. Before you can do anything to fix your problems, you have to get rid of this weight before it drags you down into even deeper depression.
Your problem of course, is to get your ex back and trying to solve this problem right after a break up is total lunacy. Try and picture yourself and your ex having a discussion right now to fix issues that you have. You are both depressed, both in pain, and both very, very, angry with each other. Add to this the idea of trying to fix problems that you have, and you will come up with a very ugly picture indeed!
You will immediately try to lay the blame of the break up on one another. Accuse each other of certain things that were problematic in your relationship, and will find absolutely nothing positive to say to, or about each other at all. So, what's the solution then?
Get rid of the weight that you're dragging around with you first! You and your ex still have feelings for each other, so it won't hurt either of you to take some time away from each other to allow these explosive emotions to cool off a little.
There is no possible way that anyone can tell you how long this will take either - it all depends on you and your ex, and how long it takes both of you to get over the hurt and anger that you are feeling.
When you're feeling a lot calmer and more capable of handling the issues that you have, THEN you can get together and talk about them. You will have a greater chance to get your ex back if you can talk to him/her in a nice relaxed way.
Get Rid Of The Trauma Of The Break Up First If You Want To Get Your Ex Back!
