subject: Winning Your Ex Back - What Are Your Reasons For Doing It? [print this page] You know, very often after a break up, you are so depressed about what has happened, that you cannot think properly and feel that the only way to get your life back again is by winning your ex back. The reality is though, when you are so devastated and in such a depressed state, the only things that go through your mind are the good time that you had with your ex.
Now while it is probably quite true that there WERE good times, there are also bad times to remember as well, unfortunately. The thing is, your depression only allows you to remember the good times, because you honestly believe that winning your ex back is the only thing that is going to make your devastating situation right again.
You could be imagining that what you are feeling right now is deep love for your partner, when it is really only very deep depression and a longing to get back what is over now. So how do you know for sure how you feel? By giving yourself time to get over the heartache and pain of the break up first.
Just put the break up and your ex out of your mind for a little while if possible. Don't sit around wallowing in your misery - it will only make you sink deeper and deeper into depression. Although very difficult right now, drag yourself out of your miserable state, and get together with your friends. Live a little and laugh a lot while you are healing.
After a while you will be feeling a whole lot better and will be able to cope better as well. Once you are at this stage, THEN think about your ex, your relationship, the break up, and why you broke up as well. Once you have sifted through all these things, thought about them carefully and finally come to realize your true feelings towards your ex, then make a decision as to what you should do about your situation.
If you find that you are still in love with your ex, then by all means try winning your ex back. But, if you find that your feelings towards your ex have faded, then don't waste yours or your ex's time by trying to get back together again - there is really no point in starting something up that will only end again.
Winning Your Ex Back - What Are Your Reasons For Doing It?
