subject: Have Better Sex With Him [print this page] Have you ever felt that you could have better sex with him, your man? Your sex life may be okay, good even, but maybe you sense there might be something more? That you're missing out on something? And you don't know what it is or what to do?
Sex is a very special, intimate, and precious gift when engaged in with someone who you love. It's an expression, a declaration, a sharing, a beautiful flow between you both. It's a discovery of self in the moment through two hearts beating as one, two bodies melting one into the other.
I think I always knew this, and though there was nothing wrong with my sex life, it was lovely, sometimes amazing, I just knew my body was capable of more. I wasn't feeling things as deeply as I was sure I could. Most everything felt good, but still I found myself asking, "Is this it? Is there something I can do to feel even more? Something that could make making love more profound?"
Sex has seemingly limitless potential for exploration of bodily sensations, inside and out, body, mind, heart, and soul. And I wanted to find a way to tap into this well of possibilities.
I found a number of ways that have opened up my lovemaking and brought it to new depths and heights, to have sex be even better with him, and I want to share a really lovely one with you.
1. Right from the beginning, tune into yourself; notice the sensations in your body no matter how tiny or how big.
2. Now become very aware of your man's touch, on your face, on your body, his lips against yours, his hands caressing your hair, your breasts, your waist, your back, your hips, your thighs. Is every inch of you feeling electrified? Some places may be more than others, but is all of it feeling wonderful?
3. Notice if your heart opens and swells. How about your lady bits.
You may become greatly aroused quickly, or it may be a quieter surge. You may just feel relaxed.
I call this feeling the first act of love making.
* Now open your eyes. Take him in. Include him in what you are feeling.
* See his sparkling eyes. Notice his sensuous smile.
* Can you feel his lust? His desire? His love? His energy butting up against yours? Imagine it if you can't feel it right away.
* Now allow him to see YOU, all of YOU. Your feminine form. Your arousal. Your excited anticipation. Your happiness. Your heart as much as it will reveal itself in this moment.
I call this feeling the second act of love making.
~ Close your eyes again.
~ Try expanding your senses beyond the two of you. Feel textures. The sheets brushing against your bodies. The pillows cradling your heads and limbs. The air surrounding you, enveloping you, breathing life into you. Feel the flickering candlelight warming you, making silky, shadowy shapes against your hearts.
~ Expand your senses further still to the world outside, to all that Mother Nature has to offer. Can you feel gentle breezes? Soft aromas? Can you feel the pulse of the universe?
~ Keep in close touch with your body while imagining this; keep feeling all that you can feel, every trembling, every pulse, all sensations.
~ Continue to stay very much in connection with him too, feeling all that he feels, feeling all that he radiates into you through his skin, his member, his spirit, his heart. Again if you can't really feel it, imagine it.
~ As much as you are able, allow ALL that is to enter you, fill you up, add to your sensations as you surrender to yourself, to your man, to life, to love, moving in a sweet, symbiotic dance.
I call this feeling the third act of love making.
This is a beautiful way to facilitate more intimate and deeper love making with your man, a lovely way to have better sex with him.
