subject: Five Ways To A Better Sex Life [print this page] In many countries, the idea of sex is a topic that is as taboo as talking about drugs and almost anything unspeakable. However, in the married life, a man and a woman need to understand each other's needs to be able to provide a healthy sex life. This, in effect, is partly what keeps a marriage stable. So if you think that you may have trouble with how you are performing in your marriage, especially within the context of sex, step back and look at these pointers to see what you might have skipped the last time that you tried to enjoy your partner and vice versa.
Romancing. Sex does not start with penetration. It is something like a ritual and just like the way you first romanced your partner in the past, so must the act of sex begin. Romance is very important in and out of the bedroom. It tells a partner that he or she is still important and still beautiful; still relevant in a relationship. So before you even think of getting naked with your partner in bed, think first of how he or she feels and let him or her know through even the slightest of gestures that you are still in love. This can be done in any number of ways; from the simple offering of gifts and flowers to offering to do chores, or being sweet.
Foreplay. Women will often tell men that the best part of sex is foreplay. Although most men might disagree with this notion, it is actually quite true. Also known as petting, foreplay is actually one of the deciding factors of just how good the act of sex will be. During this time, a man and a woman are free to explore each other's bodies, finding what makes the other feel good. Foreplay involves a lot of kissing and masturbation. It is what starts a couple into sex and so it is vital that all goes well at this point of the act. Foreplay can last for hours whereas the actual act of sex may only last a few minutes.
Penetration. Sure, sex is all about just putting the penis into the vagina but it doesn't have to be that crass. A man has to be gentle with the way he handles the situation and not roughly force himself onto a woman. A woman must also be as gentle, inviting and giving her partner exactly what he needs. By cooperating in sex, a couple will find that they will reach a sexual understanding that will be special, further strengthening a bond that is theirs alone.
The climax. Now, this part of sex can be quite tricky. More often than not, a man will reach sexual climax before a woman does. It is therefore important that a man be sensitive about this and try not to reach that climax before the woman does. In fact, a man can control reaching this point and actually climax as a woman does. Otherwise, he should allow the woman to climax first before continuing to climax himself. If in the case a woman climaxes before her partner, she should find a way to control herself so that her partner can climax together with her.
Further romance. After sex, a couple might just lie back and fall asleep. But this is so wrong. Good sex will have a couple constantly romancing each other even after sex. Sweet words or gestures have to be exchanged as an acknowledgment for the event that has just past. This will further solidify a relationship or a marriage and it will leave partners looking forward to the next time when they can enjoy each other again.
