subject: Trusting The Wife You Never Thought Would Cheat On You [print this page] By this time, you might still be blaming yourself for your wife's infidelity. But you couldn't remember any reason why would a loving and trustworthy wife betray you in a way that your world would crumble to pieces.
This is a dilemma that more and more men are facing as women become more prevalent in the workplace and as technology makes it possible to get in touch and stay in touch with people around the world.
There is a big possibility that wives left at home unhappy are more likely to commit the mistake that you can't imagine her doing. Now that she has already cheated, trust around her is the biggest issue on your relationship. Facing the problem seriously can also help bring back the bond you've had with her.
Honestly, you can't be together 24 hours a day each and every day. It's not good for any relationship to do that anyway. You're going to have to give her a certain amount of trust but that doesn't mean you have to give all or nothing trust.
Trust is huge. When you forgive, then probably there is hope. Forgetting is the hard part though, even if you accept everything, the memory of her actions will always drive a wedge between you. So, how do you do it?
Keep Tabs Minimally
You don't need to call every 30 minutes while your wife is at work or while you are at work and she's home alone. It may be tempting, if for nothing else to keep tabs on where she is at the moment, but it really isn't good for both of you.
Casually perform a check couple of times each day if you really want to ease any disturbances and suspicions on your mind. She will soon realize that it's part of redeeming herself and for the good of your relationship.
Don't Dive In
It takes time to work up to the level of trust you had before you found out about the cheating. Don't expect overnight miracles and be willing to go back in your marriage so that you'll have a marriage to move forward with.
In order to start a fresh relationship, both should be willing to regain the trust that has been broken. To forgive your partner, you have to stop reminding yourselves of the past. The whole purpose of staying together after one has cheated is to rekindle the relationship and not to keep living in the past.
