subject: HOW YOU CAN WIN YOUR EX-BACK [print this page] When a person is going through a break up it is hard and emotionally draining. The first thought after learning of the break up whether it happened face to face, on the phone or by a letter, the first question that a person normally ask is what can be done to make your ex come back. Your initial step to take in getting your ex back is really doing the opposite of what your mind might be telling you to do. It is important to do this step promptly after the breakup happens. Do not worry if you have been broken up for a while, the good thing is that this step can still help your circumstances if it is altered just a touch and that will be discussed later.
. Your ex is not going to be expecting you to agree with the decision. That is right you are going to agree with your ex! Now an effective approach to voicing this would be to say, "I have been thinking about this for a while too and you are so right, we need to take a break from each other." Of course, you do not feel this way inside, but it is going to knock your ex completely off his game plan.
Like I mentioned before, if the breakup took place some time ago, and you have done some things that are very mean spirited like sending mean text messages or calling while you are drunk, more finesse is going to be required. The slightly altered approach to the conversation above would be to send a letter and it must be written by hand to make it more personal. In the letter, you should write that you are aware of how your recent bad behavior was not warranted and that you agree that the idea of the breakup was the right decision. Make sure that you include that you agree that the breakup was for the best and that splitting up is good for the both of you. Now you have created a great big opening to reel your ex back into your life. This is strategic and the trick to winning back your mate is to get on their good side by agreeing with their decision. Before your ex can return to you and the relationship, you have to be willing to let them go. Many reasons exist for why this works and one of the biggest is that we as people always want what is not ours. Just remain unruffled and serene to give the impression that you are fine with the situation. Accept the Breakup for your ex and your sake, then follow the opening move to get your ex back
