subject: Social Anxiety Disorders – Is Fear of Socializing Affecting Your Life? [print this page] Do you ever feel boring, embarrassed, or unattractive? You probably already know that many people can identify with feeling uncomfortable or shy at some time in their lives, this is natural & after all we're only human. If you have a few minutes read on & see if you can identify with anything in the following story...
Whenever she was in a social environment Carly used to get really scared. In her teenage years she suffered badly with acne & always put her anxiety down to that. Several years on, the acne was long gone, but the anxiety just got worse & was still something she found really hard to deal with.
Whilst talking to people Carly could feel herself going red, she felt sick & sometimes her body would shake. Most of the time her heart would be beating so fast it felt like it would burst. The more she thought about it & tried to stop shaking the more tense her muscles became making it worse. She felt the person she was talking to would notice the beads of sweat on her face & how she kept wiping it with a tissue. The worse feeling was they would think her stupid.
It was rare to accept invitations out, making for a lonely existence. When she did pluck up the courage she realised she used to drink far too much just to give her "Dutch Courage".
Thankfully with help of a Carly was able to take control of her life & eliminate Social Anxiety, before that these are some of the ways she dealt with her anxiety.
Avoiding eye contact. Carly looked anywhere except at the person she was talking to floors & ceilings included.
Declining invitations. She would often say she was ill, too tired, had an appointment or needed to be somewhere else.
Making any conversations she had as brief as possible, sometimes cutting people short or giving yes & no replies. This gave the wrong impression that she was very abrupt & rude. When in fact she was just plain shy.
Sometimes she would talk ten to the dozen, so fast that people often couldn't understand her. This was just to get away as quickly as possible.
Sound familiar? Just remember it doesn't have to be this way, you too can discover how to improve your life. Read on..
What Carly didn't realise was that how she was thinking had an impact on her actions. It altered her behaviour & was seriously undermining her confidence.
The last straw came after she overheard two girls saying how stand offish she was & they felt she must think "she is too good to talk to us". She was upset by this & after thinking about it later realised that she had probably been avoiding eye contact let alone a conversation.
She decided enough was enough, started reading up on her symptoms & discovered she had a type of Phobia.
Here are a few tips Carly picked up along the way in her attempts to get help with Social Anxiety Disorders
4 STEP ACTION PLAN
Limit time spent in social situations. Remember YOU set the limit the anxiety doesn't limit you.
Slowly increase the time you spend in social interaction. Make this a gradual process as little as 1 minute is OK as long as you are in control.
Don't get stressed & beat yourself up about how you feel. Concentrate on learning to develop the right state of mind.
Tell those closest to you exactly how you are feeling, don't make excuses for it just tell it as it is.
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Social Anxiety Disorders Is Fear of Socializing Affecting Your Life?
