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When I was about 18 years old I had a life changing experience. From the age of 13 or 14 years old I was ona path of destruction. I was rebelling against the world that surrounded me. I looked for trouble and if I couldn't find it I created it. One day I met people who were having more fun doing good things than I was having fun doing bad things. These young people who were the same age as I was were involved in helping seniors with their fundraisers for their church, I met people who helped prepare masses for their church, created a band to supply the music for their celebrations and had lots of fun having film nights and dances with no alcohol involved and just look so full of joy. I wanted to be a part of this.
So I left my group of trouble makers to join a group involved with the church I attended as a young lad. That's where my life changed. I realized how powerful living a life filled with positive thoughts and actions was way more fun than living a negative one. I consider that LUCK. From that day on I vowed to lead a life filled with positive thoughts and to see everything from a positive side rather than look at the negative side. I learned that whatever happened was in the past and I could do nothing about but whatever was going to happen I had a say in. It's not to say that I don't have my moments.
If you are anything like me you probably spend most of your day worrying or thinking about all the negative things in your life right now. It's almost a human condition that we concern ourselves with the things that could go wrong, things that have gone wrong, things that annoy us, and our past bad experiences.
We all know about "positive thinking" and have probably been prescribed the "Say these affirmations three times a day after food and especially before bed" pill. But still we struggle. Is there any hope for the normal Joe? Is it only possible for the few "super hero's" to achieve the things they dare to dream.
Well, maybe there is a way to join the elite and break free from insecurity & negativity to become the person you we are meant to be. It requires a bit of work though, and you have to be prepared to change. But if you really have had enough of struggle and really want to achieve your ultimate desires, then yes there is a way.
The key is in the last sentence.
It's very easy to be swayed by circumstances and situations; the secret to success is how you interpret and learn from them. One of the biggest things I've learnt over the years is that "you are what you think". You are able to create your own destiny simply by the things you think about.
If your expectancy is to fail, then that is what you will probably do. If, however, you have absolute confidence that you are going to succeed then whatever "ups and downs" you experience you will interpret them as stepping-stones or a learning curve to your eventual success.
Developing the attitude of "if it's going to be; it's up to me" is the first step to take control of your life. Taking responsibility for your own actions means that success or failure is the direct result of what you do or don't do, end of story!
Being able to make your own decisive decisions is another attribute that I have found to be important. By "decisive" I mean making a decision and sticking to it. So many times we decide to do something without the necessary conviction to carry it through.
If you want success then you have to find something that you enjoy doing. Without passion it is extremely difficult to keep on track and stay the course. Success does not only mean wealth & fortune, I have met some very successful people who others would consider paupers. The thing is, though, they live their lives with passion, they are doing what THEY have chosen to do, and they love every minute of it.
I have met other people who are successful in very dire situations. I met people who had been through things that are difficult to even imagine, yet they considered themselves successful in that they survived at all! They looked forward with great expectancy for the future because their past was now behind them. Of course there were many who were plagued with tremendous hurts but there were a few who had the attitude of success. I sure learned a lot from them.
When you give thanks real, soul-lifting, jubilant thanks for things you don't have yet, nature rushes in to fill that vacuum. It'll fill it with all the things and qualities and people that are bubbling joyously in your heart and mind. Or sometimes it may decide that what you're being thankful for doesn't fit you very well... so it'll send you something even better. When dealing with life, flexibility is a good thing.
Anyway, that's the "big secret." That's all there is.
The words "really want" and "desire" are the action words for success. Combine them with "belief" and "trust" and you have the recipe to achieve anything. Prepare yourself for that which you are seeking. Know that the forces of the universe will rush in to bring you what you want, provided of course you want it badly enough and believe that you can get it.
What this means is that you already have the answers, you already have the potential, and you already have the achievement within you if you only take the time to look. You have to relax and become quiet. Believe in the inherent abilities within you, and the answers to How? What? Why? will come.
Don't believe me?
The truth is, whatever you see in your mind - good or bad - if you believe it, it will become reality. That means that if you think and worry about something, then your own concentrated effort brings about the very things you fear and worry about and vice versa!
Ok, then how do I control my thoughts?
Take time out to write down everything you want or dream about having.
Describe in words the person you want to become.
Collect pictures of things that inspire you.
Gather together all the music cassettes that uplift you.
Read all the books you can get hold of.
Make cards to stick on your mirror.
Carry them in your purse.
Put them on your dashboard
Etc., etc. . . .
In other words surround yourself with reminders of positive things that inspire you to do something!
I know I said this before, but it is fundamentally true - "If you don't know where you are going; then how do you know when you get there?" By making the effort to actually move towards your goals, you will be amazed just how many things will fall into place. The universe wants you to succeed.
Remember these words? - "Seek and you will find, ask and it will be given to you, knock and the door will be opened".
By gaining a belief that "Yes I CAN do it", you will find that the negatives will be replaced with the positives and a new strength will evolve within you that will help you overcome the peaksand troughs of your journey to success!
Remember, you are not alone or "different" for wanting to be positive. In fact you are being more honest to the real potential that is embedded in you. So start to believe in your own ability to succeed and you will find that doors will open for you.
Life has taught me that we all create our own luck through our personal beliefs and attitudes. By beliefs, I mean the ongoing, internal chatter of self-talk we listen to every waking hour of the day. Most of our problems seem to come from our deep-seated thoughts and beliefs. These can be negative beliefs about self-worth, guilt, luck or fear.
Setting this situation right often requires some thoughtful self-examination followed by an equal amount of positive action. Plainly speaking, we don't need to "re-invent the wheel." In order to find a bit of solace while working toward the solution, it helps to reflect on someone else's experience. Following this, we merely need to ask for help from a higher source and wait in quiet expectation, pausing silently to listen for the reply.
What makes a winner and how can I lead the life of my dreams?
Feel your goal to be true about you at this very moment; live with it. This is another good way to assure you are being positive toward others and wishing them the best. Stop judging events as good or bad, and instead learn to appreciate some aspect of everything that you meet in life. See something good in everything (even the things that at first look like problems).
Another thing you can do is to stop creating new buts and ifs; reverse the old patterns and you will move toward new ones. Remember, you are a co-creator, one with God. Who is going to stop you? The only one who can possibly stop you is you.
Now you know how to be a winner in your life. Start exercising this power. Do it every day, and you will see some wonderful changes in 30 days. Within a year you will be well on your way to a future that is far more satisfying.
So in conclusion, life is as you make it. It is possible to create your own "luck" by having the right attitude and allowing the good things to happen. Everyone is attractive like a magnet, we can either attract the things we want or we attract the things we don't want. Doesn't it make sense to concentrate on the things that we do want?!
