subject: How To Get Rid Of Anxiety - Anger Has 3 Solutions, Here Is How To Discover Them [print this page] We all feel angry in one way or the otherWe all feel angry in one way or the other. Anger is a form of negative emotion that builds inside us. Getting angry is not a bad thing but what you do with your anger is what matters. When we are in this state of negative emotion we feel lost and most of the time we don't know what positive action to take.
What we first ought to understand is that anger has only two causes, one is hurt--this could be caused by things like stress and two is needs not met--when one's needs are not met it results in low well being which could eventually lead to anger. In general anger has only three possibilities, in which we owe to ourselves the time to understand them if we are to control what we do with our anger the next time.
One is getting depressed. Depression is like having stored up anger within us and not allowing it to get out or transforming it to other positive action. When this happens one fails to make any decision and stays with the anger and with time one gets depressed. This is not healthy and could result to some dangerous health problems.
Two is aggression. Most of us think that a good way to react with anger is through aggression. Aggression is a type of WIN/LOSE thinking form, it's childish and above all doesn't solve most of our anger problems. People who most of the time consider this as the ultimate best solution suffer greatly with pain and could result to anxiety. If you have such a habit then remember the serenity prayer to help you stay in control,"God grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference."
Third is assertiveness. This is known to be the only way out of any discomfort of anger, depression or violent aggression. It is the only constructive way to react to anger and always results into a WIN/WIN situation. Assertiveness allows you to go independently, patiently and maturely get your own needs met without hurting others.
Said again, getting angry is not a bad thing, its healthy but what you do afterwards is what matters. Don't let your stress or low well being control how you react with your anger. You might be in a bad situation but what constructive action do you take to get your needs met and not be controlled by stress?.
