subject: Adding Intimacy To Marriage After Cheating On Your Husband [print this page] Cheating adds burden on marriages in a number of ways. Intimacy is one area which is hardest hit by this. Yes, the word "intimacy" covers a wide territory that has multiple meanings to its end. It is lamentable to say that but then, all possible meanings take a hard hit when cheating ticks off but for the purpose of this discussion, physical intimacy is the topic.
Being At Ease Again
It's not just cheating- you must bear that in mind on cheating on your husband. It's a hit below the belt for almost all men. Many men consider ego and self esteem as having close ties. With your cheating it's not only pounding that he gets but at the same time you're tying his hands so that he may never block. To get him at ease about getting physical again, you will have to allow him a little time.
After all those misconceptions, reality still sticks and it says that men are not machines even when it comes to sex. You will be able to experience some things with your husband once he knows about it. He may drive to the more physical aspect of the relationship in an almost explosive way (like marking his territory) or he'll simply keep off to himself and shrug off the physical intimacy. All together he may shut down even your advances.
It's important to roll with the punches to a point. You'll eventually have to find your line in the sand and make a statement to your husband whichever end of the physical intimacy spectrum he happens to end up on. Give him time to get comfortable with you and the changes in your relationship before you expect him to be ready to take this particular aspect of the relationship for the next step.
Inquire About Those He Needs from You
It is likely that he'll be thrown off just a bit with this but do not fear this could be a possible conversation starter for him. He may not be able to pinpoint the thing that he needs from you to start off but he is very much aware that something is not right. Perhaps it's something the two of you can work on together once willingness is present.
But, you will never know if it is even something you can work on together if you never open up and talk about it. Sometimes it really is as simple as asking the right question at the right time. When it comes to saving your marriage it's probably safe to say it's worth the price of asking a question even if you're not sure where that question is going to take you.
