subject: Saving My Relationship...is It All You Think About? [print this page] The drama of relationships breaking up, no matter what the reason, is a painful, gut wrenching experience. You probably feel sad and depressed, your feelings are hurt and you miss your ex love terribly. If you are constantly thinking "saving my relationship is the most important thing" then it's time to step back and look at how you're going to proceed.
There are many websites, books, blogs, forums and even courses all about love breaking up. Advice is everywhere to tell you how should you go about healing a relationship, but just a good dose of common sense can really make a difference after a breakup. You can also be sure that common courtesy will go a long way toward healing relationships. Breaking up does not always mean it's over, so continue reading to discover some very good ways to save your relationship.
First and foremost don't play games. Treating a relationship like a game is very foolish, but unfortunately sometimes a desperate person will resort to manipulating the situation by trying to cause the other person to be jealous or lying because it gives them a sense of power. After serious dating, breaking up can be devastating, but while it might feel good in the moment to manipulate things, it won't feel good for long. Eventually you'll realize that lying and manipulating the other person isn't a good feeling. Anything good that happens because of it will always be tarnished a little because of the lie. If you're dealing with a marriage breaking up it's even more important to stay ethical because the stakes are even higher.
The next thing you must be very careful about is being mean, using sarcasm, and saying things you will later regret. Being in love, breaking up and fearing that you are about to lose your love forever can cause you to act more harshly than you normally would, so uses restraint. Being hurt is part of relationships breaking up, but if you want to save your relationship, hold your tongue and do not attack or blame the other person. Now is the time for understanding.
If you are really serious about reconciling with the person you love then you must think about how you've been acting. Put yourself in their shoes. Would you look forward to seeing and talking to you? Or would you dread it? Do you start arguments, and blame or belittle your ex? If you find yourself doing these things then you must stop! You may feel very hurt and angry, because love breaking up never feels good, but work at controlling your anger and hurt feelings so that your ex love can see you for who you really are and begin to remember the happier times you shared.
These are just the initial steps of finding your way back to each other. This is a process and will take some time, so be patient. All relationships taking a break, need time to grow and change. Relationships breaking up need time to heal and then start to rebuild. Try to remember that no matter how hopeless it looks, take heart because there is help and guidance and love is worth fighting for!
