subject: How To Watch The Little Things In Your Relationship [print this page] Just because you and your spouse pledged to love and nurture each other through all your days, doesn't guarantee that your marriage will remain vital and strong. Here are 3 little mistakes that left unchecked could cost you your marriage.
Little Mistake #1 Not Hearing Your Partner's Plea For Attention
With lots of work and other things pulling at us each day, it is easy to fall into a rut where we don't always include nurturing our relationships.
As we fulfill our commitments at work, in our community and with our children, we may not always save some of our time and energy for our relationships. When this happens, our relationship partner will usually make a subtle plea to be noticed and nurtured. If this subtle plea goes unnoticed, they may even make a more direct plea for attention.
If we assume that they know we love them and continue to spend our time and energies on these other efforts, we are sending a very clear message that these other responsibilities are higher priority with us than our relationship with our boyfriend or girlfriend.
It's extremely important to let our relationships know on a daily basis that we value our life and relationship with them.
It can be as simple as making sure they always get a passionate hug or embrace on their way in and out of the house with a heart felt "I love you". However, it will also require making a conscious effort to include them in our busy life each and every day.
After all, our job, community efforts and children will only be a part of our life for a defined period of time, whereas our spouse will be with us for a life-time. Keep your priorities in order, and you will go far in avoiding "Little Mistake #1."
Little Mistake #2 Sharing Intimate, Personal Information With Someone Other Than Our Spouse
In many cases, the first step down the path of infidelity starts with individuals sharing your heart with someone other than our partner on a regular basis.
Either party could mistake this for feelings of intimacy, and secrecy only encourages this intimacy to grow. Personal, intimate discussions should be reserved for our spouse, it is only there that we will receive the best counsel from someone who deeply loves us and has our best interests as the heart of their desires.
Little Mistake #3 Keeping Your Anger to Yourself
There is nothing wrong with having less than loving feelings about your spouse when you've had a major disagreement. However, there is something wrong with harboring those ill feelings to the point of harming your relationship.
If these feelings are fed, they will grow into being critical about every aspect of our spouses imperfections. Following those times of disagreement, help yourself to calm down by reminding yourself of your spouse's many positive traits and you'll be surprised at how easily those loving feelings return.
By practicing avoiding these "3 Little Mistakes", your partnership can remain strong and vital for a lifetime.
