subject: Charisma - A Magnetic Force - What is It? [print this page] In one sentence can you describe the term charisma? I find it amusing to hear the many different responses to that question. When asked to define this characteristic most people have their own version of its meaning. We usually say things like "charming", "popular", "good looking", or influential to describe its definition. I've even heard some describe it as this mystical element that dwells within the innermost nature of only a "selected" few. I've always enjoyed this topic because it challenges the person to look deeper than the abstract meanings that are typically the first to pop into the mind when the word is mentioned. So I will ask you again to place meaning with the term, this time with an even more solid foundation. Start thinking of a few individuals you know that exude this incredible gift. Then ask yourself what it is specifically that makes them charismatic.
The term charisma derives from the Ancient Greek word kharisma, which means "God's chosen" or "divinely favored". In biblical times, it was used to describe people like Moses and Joshua, who were charged as leaders over the nation of Israel in quest for the land "flowing with milk and honey". However, the meaning evolved as time went on to encompass more platforms. No longer is it just our spiritual leaders that possess this gift. In modern day society, entertainers, politicians, and perhaps even the local pimp can command the scene with this particular quality.
According to Dr. Tony Alessandra, studier of the human psyche and author of the book Charisma, the definition for the term would be described as "the ability to influence others positively by connecting with them physically, emotionally, and intellectually." In short, it's the qualities that make someone like you, even if they don't know you. Moreover, you should perceive charisma as a "result quality", a personal characteristic that comes as a result of possessing a combination of other different qualities. So in order to become that charismatic leader that you've always wanted to be, you should look to improve yourself in a number of different capacities. Communication ability, outward appearance, body language, and enthusiasm, are some elements to focus on. (For more tips, I suggest you read Charisma by Tony Alessandra)
Personalities like Zig Ziglar, Al Pacino, and Oprah Winfrey are great examples of people gifted with the understanding of what it takes to move people. They are incredible communicators, but even better at connecting with an audience. So what can we do to connect better with our family members, employees, business partners, and even the strangers that we meet? We can start by being someone that they like being around, someone that makes him or her feel good inside, and someone that gives them hope. Also, you shouldn't ignore how charming a sincere smile and compliment can be.
If you're looking to improve in this area, the most important thing to remember is that Charisma is a gift that's outward focused and can only be displayed if your intentions cater to parties other than yourself. In other words, be more concerned about making people feel good about themselves, rather than making them feel good about you. I'll end this piece with a story that will illustrate this point. It was told by a woman who dined with two rival statesmen on consecutive nights, William Gladstone and the charismatic Benjamin Disraeli during a time when they competed for leadership of Great Britain's government. When asked of her impression of the two, she said, "When I left the dining room after sitting next to Mr. Gladstone, I thought that he was the cleverest man in England. But after sitting next to Mr. Disraeli, I thought I was the cleverest women in England." In 1874, Disraeli succeeded in his campaign for British Prime Minister.
