subject: How Long Does it Take to Get Your Ex Back After Cheating? [print this page] It would be nice if there was a nice little timeline that teaches you how long it takes to get your ex back after cheating. Unfortunately there is no such timeline. There also isn't a guarantee that you can get your ex back after you've cheated. Some people consider it such a serious violation that there is just no moving forward.
But, there are things you can do that will greatly speed up the process. Pay close attention to the advice below and you just might end up saving your relationship even after you cheated on your ex. It may be much easier than you think (though it certainly won't be a simple process by any means).
1) Stop placing blame. It doesn't matter if you're shifting the blame to yourself or your ex. This isn't the time for blame but would be better spent working towards a solution that will lead to happily ever after instead. Don't blame yourself or your ex. That takes too much negative energy. Instead focus on positive and constructive things like making things right between the two of you.
2) Stop pushing. I know, this goes against everything your heart is screaming at you to do. The problem is that when you push, you are moving things away from you rather than pulling them towards you. Think about things from your point of view. Do you like pushy sales people? How about pushy neighbors? Would you rather have a pushy waitress or one that is in the background quietly getting the job done?
3) Make a few changes. There are all kinds of small changes you can make that not only adjust your way of thinking but also your attitude towards the world. Small changes can deliver big results when the ultimate goal is to get your ex to forgive you for cheating. More importantly, they aren't quick fixes that cost a fortune. Instead, they are long term solutions that can be perfected day after day as you build your lives together.
4) Know what you are asking forgiveness for. Don't be vague in your requests for forgiveness. Be specific. Be concise. Be thorough. Make your offer in a way that will matter to your ex by being respectful of his or her time and attention. If you don't know why you need forgiveness now that your cheating is out, then perhaps it's time to reassess whether you really want to get your ex back or not.
How Long Does it Take to Get Your Ex Back After Cheating?
