subject: Do You Think My Bum Looks Big In This? [print this page] There are certain questions a woman can ask that will send their partners' spine into a column of quivering jelly and any question with "do you think," loaded into it will do the trick.
The way someone thinks is behind every fear, phobia, need and desire imaginable and the way someone thinks usually dictates what they actually get out of life.
Rather than being content with how you think you look in a certain pair of jeans, you ask your partner that dreaded question, "Do you think I look fat?" focussing on the word fat.' This leads to focussing on and worrying about losing weight, slimming diets and taking more exercise. Worry leads to stress and stress usually leads to eating more and eating more leads to, well you don't need me to explain where that leads to. But if you're in any doubt it leads to more worry and stress.
Why not ask a different question, I'm sure your partner would feel a whole lot better if you said, "I look and feel good in this, what do you think?" Wow, a lot easier question to answer and it has fewer calories in it and no fat.
You may still think you need to lose a few pounds but the pressure is off, no worry and no stress. So any diet or exercise program will be easier to follow because you want to do it and not because you think you need to, a subtle but important difference.
Word association plays a big part in every aspect of our lives not just weight loss, but think fat, you get fat, think slim, and you get slimmer. Not just by thinking about it of course, but by the association of thinking of and concentrating on the good things that being a bit slimmer would bring to your life, feeling healthier, being on holiday somewhere exotic and wearing the lovely summer outfits you bought last year, which of course means you save money which will mean an even more exotic holiday next year. Start thinking positively and asking positive questions. You decide for yourself if you need to lose a bit of weight and feel happy about it
