subject: Best Dating Tips For Guys To Be As Easy As James Bond In Getting Girls [print this page] Partly due to our upbringing, some guys have less success than others in dating women. But for guys who have reasonable success with women, the following tips can help them to be a better man, the type of guy that girls like to stick around with, like James Bond.
Here are the ways you can be ahead of other guys in achieving this:
(1) Teasing her
Always maintain some degree of mysterious at all times to make her curious to find out more about you. Give away some of the puzzle, but not the whole thing.
For example, if a woman asks you what you do for a living, tell her, then stop and do not go into the details yet.
If you have a lofty-sounding job title, such as Executive Vice President, do not bother mentioning about it. If she is keen in knowing about the specifics about your job or career, she will ask.
If you have a job that is less impressive, you can just mention in general terms and from there you can steer her attention to other topics. For example, you can say:" I work in the financial sector where the hours are long and work is quite challenging. For relaxation purpose, I have a hobby that I am extremely passionate about.
Whether you have a lucrative career or not, give the impression at first, that it is not that important to you. Portray yourself as confident but modest, like you are the type of guy who does not want women to be attracted to him because of his career or his bank account just as they do not want men to judge them solely by their looks.
Teasing is the fastest way to bring down a woman's defense. But be careful, not to tease her appearance and religious beliefs or do it in any way to make her feel insulted. Through teasing:
(a) You show her that you are confident and are not intimidated by her. Most men are intimidated by attractive women and this will make them look like lacking in confidence.
(b) You show your playful side and do not take things too seriously when talking to women. When the fear of rejection dominates your thoughts, you will not be able to feel relaxed and may come across as being too dead serious which is a real turn-off to women.
(c) She has to prove herself. When you are thinking of how to talk to women, you are probably trying to prove your value to her. Teasing reverses this and this denies her from gaining any upper hand against you.
(2) Make her work for your attention
To make her beg for your attention, you give her a little bit of attention and then you pull a little bit away. It is this "push-pull" that makes seduction fun to women and holds their attention.
Every time you talk to a woman, focus on making it a good emotional experience to her. Try to make her feel good but do not go out all in trying to please her. Just talk about any fun topics. Make her feel good about herself by complimenting her about the stuff you like. The aim is to reward her emotionally for talking to you.
For example, if she says:" My job sucks, I work as a receptionist."
You can steer her away to something by saying:"Ah, besides work, I am sure you are passionate about something? What is it?"
This will give her lots of chance to rant and rave about something she likes. As a result, she will feel emotionally enjoyable by talking to you and this can encourage her to open up further, extending to other topics.
(3) Building a rapport with her
In order to get any woman you want, you need to bond with her first and this will be by means of talking with her.
You may have read about some pick-up lines to use when approaching women. In reality, there is no "one-size fits all" plan because not all women are the same and every circumstance in meeting them will be different too. Recall that during our military training, the first thing our training instructor told us was APPRECIATION OF THE SITUATION. This is also applicable to meeting women. This means studying the environment under which you meet her and based on the situation making some improvisations and adjustments.
There is this saying about when it comes to chatting with a girl, give a guy enough rope and he usually ends up hanging himself. This means the more he talks, the higher the chances he will say something that cause her to lose interest on him. Listening and "invisibly" guiding the conversation by asking open-ended non-intimate questions will increase her comfort level with you.
Success in learning how to talk to women is more about trying not to make mistakes like bragging, talking about other women in your life and asking the wrong questions.
The most important thing to take note when approaching women is to get mentally-prepared that at times things may not work well and you have to "cut loss and run". This can be due to mistakes you unconsciously make or she has some personality problems. By keeping an open mind to possible failure and prepare to walk away, you will be more able to act naturally or spontaneously to be yourself. If you are not overly bothered by each outcome in your encounter with women, your mind will be more at ease and you are more likely to come across to her as a confident and attractive guy.
It is just like in soccer or cricket matches, the champion team does not necessarily have to win every match. It just has to lose as little as it can and win significantly in crucial matches. The same applies to dating women.
Another thing to watch out for is the "baiting questions" that women ask you. They may slip in an innocent-sounding question in an attempt to test you. If you fail this test, it may extinguish any interest she has in you.
A common baiting question women ask is," Why you do not have a girlfriend?" She is trying to find out if you are a playboy or whether you have any defects that drive women away. This is not the time to be cocky or trying to act funny by saying," I have dated many girls but I am not ready to settle down." Instead tell her," I am not in a hurry to rush into a relationship until I meet the right girl."
Another baiting question women may ask is," Have you ever cheated on any one of your girlfriends?" This is not the time for honesty. It is never a good idea to talk about your past sexual conquests, whether they involved cheating or not. Instead deflect this question by saying," When I am in a relationship, I expect the other person to be loyal and committed and I hold myself to the same standard."
(4) Making her feel the time spent with you is not enough
Many relationships die off for 2 main reasons:
(a) Too much time together
(b) Too much time apart
Spending all your time with a woman especially in the early stages of a relationship can be suffocating. It is very important t maintain your own life outside of the relationship. Keep doing those things that you enjoy and hang out with your friends. In this way, not only you can keep your own identity, you will also have some thins interesting to talk about when you see her.
In order for a relationship to be more long-lasting, you should spend just enough time together to make her want more time with you. So you should meet her, hang out and have fun and leave early enough to make her want more. Always leave her on a high note so that she can have fond memories of you especially if you both did something enjoyable and fun together. Arrange fun dates such as walking to some interesting or unique places, or fun events such as cooking or baking together, rather than just going to the movies.
One of the ways to make your dates more interesting is to be spontaneous. For example, you can check out on any upcoming events so that you can try some unconventional dating ideas. This can make her feel you are fun to be with.
Best Dating Tips For Guys To Be As Easy As James Bond In Getting Girls
