subject: Flirting With A Woman - Why Does It Have To Be So Tough? [print this page] When you think about it, flirting with a woman should be relatively easy, right? I mean, women seem to have no problems flirting, so why does it seem to be so tough for most guys? Well, when women are young, a lot of their focus is on flirting, while many guys are more focused on things like playing football. Of course, women are going to end up having an easier time. What you need to be able to do is play catch up in a sense, and learn what works to build attraction while flirting with a woman so that it DOES become easy to you.
One of the things that is glaringly clear when a guy says that he struggles to flirt with a woman, is usually that he puts way too much thought into it. If you are too much inside your mind, it is ALWAYS going to be hard when you are flirting with her. You have to get out of your own head and just enjoy yourself and the experience.
Here are some tips on how to flirt with a woman and make it EASY on yourself:
1. Don't try to rush the interaction.
Chances are good that if you are flirting with a woman, then you really want to get somewhere with it. Meaning, you want to ask her out on a date, you want to kiss her, etc. In some way, you want things to escalate beyond just the flirting. Well, that can make you kind of want to rush things, and that hardly ever is a way to really get what you want. Be a little more patient, and enjoy the ride. Do that and you WILL get to where you want to be, and you will end up with the date, the kiss, and whatever else you desire.
2. Open the conversation up for her to jump in.
I've seen a lot of men make the mistake of being too dominant in a conversation, where it comes across like they are doing all of the talking, and the woman is basically just listening. Well, do that for too long, and she won't be listening. She will be tuning you out and waiting for a moment when she can kind of make her exit. If you want to make her want you, then you NEED to let her join in on the conversation. Really, I like to have the woman do quite a bit of the talking, and I just kind of guide her along.
3. Physically flirt with her.
Most guys are not really playful with women, and this is something that you want to be. Why? Because they LOVE it! Seriously, the more playful that you are with a woman, the more she is going to enjoy herself and she is going to like being around you. And she will want to be around you more often, so when you do go for the escalation, she will be open to it and you will get what you want.
