subject: Intro On Just How To Get Into Swinging -- Part 2 [print this page] This is the continuation of my Introduction On How To Get Into Swinging. Don't forget to read part 1 if you missed it.
Hangling Jealousy?
Simply think about it, what is the one detail many couples worry? Will my partner run off with someone else? Generally affairs take place when one partner is seeking something that is absent from their relationship. A lot of times this is simply some sexual exhilaration. You need to realize, if we won't learn some new tricks this dog is getting old. At the time you have sex with another person you basically have no alternative but to spark things up. They are going to have their own sexual "tricks" to teach you which will inspire some ideas of your own.
What Swinging Is Not?
Wife-swapping, that is such a sexist expression that implies both inequality and control over the lady partner. It is necessary for you to recognize that in spite of what you may have heard, women and men are equally as sexual. This is incredibly noticeable with swingers. So it is a mutual understanding amid swinging couples to get rid of their inhibitions and just take pleasure in their sexuality with someone else.
Swinging is also not "cheating". How can you be cheating if your spouse is right there with you? Swingers don't go out behind each others' back looking for sexual trysts. They would rather experience things in each other's company with complete confidence that they are a couple and their bond is stronger because they are able to share everything with each other.
Why Should I Swing?
Other than the apparent reasons of improved sexual fulfillment, and obviously the fun, swinging is very revitalizing, lots of people find the ordinary world so woefully sad and boring after getting started. I have heard swinging referred to as RECESS for adults. At school, recess for youngsters is so much more important than people realize--not for all the old reasons: fresh air, relaxation, exercise--but for a much more essential reason: it provides children a chance to connect in a real way with their friends and other kids by playing. As kids age, they take recesses away a bit at a time until by high school they have no time to play and thus no time to connect with other people in a meaningful way. By the time we're an adult, we are completely disconnected from our fellow human beings, leaving us anxious, lethargic, and horribly lonely (and willing to settle for just about anybody because we are so desperate to feel reconnected). The lifestyle is the antidote to so much of that! It is recess for grown-ups. Then after recess we can go back to to our regular life and not complain too much about it.
Now this gives you a good overview of some of the different facets of swinging. I hope this helps answer some of the questions you may have. Keep watching for more on this very complex subject as I will continue to write as much as I can on it.
