subject: Dating Tips - How To Establish Attraction On A First Date [print this page] One of the most important elements of perfect seduction is physical contact. Most dating experts and well-known pick up artists believe that having a basic level of trust determines the success or failure of seduction.
It simply means that having a substantial amount of touching is a must before you can kiss or sleep with the woman of your dreams. These touch points come in subtle forms such as putting your arm around her waist, her putting her hand on your knee or leaning on you during casual conversations.
The idea is these nonverbal gestures are indicators if she's prime for seduction or you're ready to move in for the kill. Here lies the problem - some men do not have a clue on how establish physical closeness without actually scaring her away or freaking her out. The worst one can do is to go for it even before she's ready to commit. This will make her feel really uncomfortable and heaven forbid even violated.
Some guys, on the other hand, want to appear as a perfect gentlemen that they hold back any form of physical contact. Unfortunately, such act usually sends out the wrong message that you're not that interested.
This article presents some sort of unspoken rules or process that will help you establish physical contact without actually breaking her personal boundaries as well as establish an impression that you're really interested to know her better. These subtle moves include:
It's a very common mistake to assume that you can't establish physical contact during the first meeting. You just need to know when and where to establish that connection. For instance, dating experts agree that touching the outside of a woman's arm is not an "intimate zone" to make her feel uncomfortable. You can do this at the same time that you're verbally expressing something to create a first impression that you're socially adept and personable.
Be consistent. As you continue your conversation with a girl or if you're on a second or third date make sure you continue the level of subtle physical contact to build rapport and heighten sexual attraction. It can be whispering something to her, gently holding her back when she seats on chair, helping her out of the car and so much more. Consider every moment as an opportunity to have a physical contact. Don't overdo it or it will definitely backfire.
Close with a bang. Every conversation has a conclusion and every date has to end. This is your opportunity to build up attraction and make her feel that you cannot wait to see her again. How would you do that? By giving her a hug and a kiss on the cheek. However, this move depends if you're successful with the first and second tip mentioned above. contrary to what many men believe, it is ok to have physical contact before you part ways with a girl. You don't have to wait for your next date to make this move.
