subject: Mars and Venus in Scorpio Can Be Juicing up Your Relationship if You Want That [print this page] Who would you be in your life without relationships? Where would the fun be? Would you be there at all? How much pain and suffering in your life is related to relationships? And how much joy and bliss? Are you motivated to take a deeper look? I think it is well worth it!
LIFE IS RELATIONSHIP. We are born out of the relationship of our father and mother no matter what specific form that took, how functional or dysfunctional it might have been. We only survived childhood because no matter how they or surrogate parents have been, they have been good enough to ensure our survival with enough nourishment, touch and kindness.
With all the righteous complains you might have you are here and you live. And now it is in your hands to make the best out of it. You might have heard about the babies who never received touch or kindness that have died without that life affirming connection. Life is connection. Life is oneness. Life is love. Without it we wither and die. To live a fulfilling life we need love and connection.
It seems like for many of us who have found their way onto a spiritual path, we have plenty of dysfunction and wounding in our childhood. I see it in myself and with of many of my friends that the abandonment and trauma of our childhood has helped to shape us into a pretty conscious and compassionate being. It has been the driving motivation to self inquiry, healing of the inner child and searching for goodness and meaning in life. I like where I am in my life and I would not want to change anything.
With Mars joining Venus in Scorpio September 14, the sign of death and rebirth in a trine with Chiron in Aquarius present us with a chance to do some inner work and healing around those inner childhood wounds. Also Pluto in Capricorn is turning direct on September 13. Pluto always demands deep self honesty, inner work and transformation. The Pluto square to Saturn in the relationship sign of Libra has been with us now for a while.
Chiron the Wounded Healer
Chiron is known as the wounded healer who had to heal himself and then became a healer and teacher for others with the same affliction. If Chiron has a strong standing in your chart by connecting to personal planets you will know that your own healing process has benefited others around you as well.
Mars and Venus, the Eternal Lovers
Mars and Venus are known as the lover and his beloved dancing the eternal dance of sexual attraction and heart connection. Mars' mission is to conquer and take according to his needs. He has strong will power and discerning qualities. He is the prototype of a virile, potent, testosterone driven male, the warrior and conqueror of countries. Sex, impatience and power are his vices but he is also very courageous and can be selfless in caring for his loved ones.
Venus, the goddess of love and harmony has her hands full to pacify this warrior but is eternally attracted by his utterly male energy. Both are like yin and yang, complementing each other, walking hand in hand but are also very different in their outlook on life and in their needs.
With Mars and Venus in Scorpio it is all about the deep inner core of your relationship patterns and needs and how you go about it. Scorpio is a water sign with a deep fixation onto perfection and deep passions. Sexuality in its whole variety from healthy lovemaking to perverted power games and rape is at home in Scorpio.
John Grays books about "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" are a wonderful read to familiarize yourself with the different approaches and patterns both genders have. These books are very funny and entertaining to read.
Taking Your Relationship to a New Level
If you are ready for some rejuvenation and fresh energy in your love relationship this is the time to breath new life into it. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and touched. Sit down with your loved one and take time for a relationship inquiry. Have a timer handy and set the time for each person to share for 15 minutes without the other interrupting.
One person is talking for 15 minutes and shares about her likes and dislikes in the relationship. Be as honest as you can be, this is your chance. If you don't tell the other your deep inner fears and needs there is no real connection or togetherness which is needed to keep your relationship alive and juicy. It is important that the person listening is not reacting or responding in any way. Just be present and listen. Then after 15 minutes you trade places and the other person listens.
Then you can choose if you want to discuss the subjects immediately or let it sit for a while and get together for evaluation later. This is a very powerful tool to keep your relationship healthy and well functioning. You could make it a date once a week to come together like this and share deeply.
As women we often make the mistake to expect our partner to be able to read and respond to our needs without clearly communicating them. Or we let it drop here and there and expect them to pick up on them. Not happening, right? Why don't you try something new then? I assure you this will take your relationship to a new level.
Transformation and Healing of the Inner Child
As mentioned in the beginning we all have a more or less wounded inner child. As grown ups we now have the power and responsibility to care for and heal that inner child. And we can do that through therapy, spiritual growth, sharpening of our wisdom and expand our consciousness. And the most likely place you will hit the knots of old unfinished business is in your intimate relationship. This is where you show up with your automatic reactions and patterns according to your specific structures. And this is the place where you are most needy and vulnerable. This is the place where you need better communication skills. This is the place where you need to build trust as the unshakable foundation for your relationship, in order for it to last.
Whatever we dislike or react to in our partner is tied in with our history. The need for love, true reflection and connection is deep within us. With Mars and Venus in Scorpio you will have the support for another step along your inner healing and integration to become a more loving and compassionate person. Chiron in a supportive trine makes it a smooth a ride as possible.
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I hope you will use this chance for your happiness and joy joining deeply with your beloved.
I would love to hear from you and your experience with the inquiry and wish you well,
Aloha and many blessings, Shakti.
Shakti Carola Navran: astrologer, jeweler and author
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Mars and Venus in Scorpio Can Be Juicing up Your Relationship if You Want That
