subject: How To Recover From Guilt Over Cheating On Your Husband [print this page] Cheating on your husband will do all kinds of crazy things to your heart, mind, body, and soul. You need to learn how to recover from the guilt over cheating on your husband or it will eat you alive and destroy your marriage. Cheating isn't the end of marriages as often as people believe it is. In the current economy and with the situation affecting people on a global scale, more and more couples are making the decision to work things out.
You may be working things out for all the right reasons: love, belief in your marriage, faith that it will all work out in the end, and countless other reasons to keep your marriage going when the going gets really rough. That doesn't mean you're going about it the right way. If you're allowing guilt to be your guiding light then you really aren't doing yourself, your spouse, or your marriage any good. You're only delaying what many believe is the inevitable meltdown that looms on the horizon in a case like this.
So how do you recover from the guilt before it consumes you and brings your marriage down in flames?
1.Bear in mind that nobody's perfect or blameless. It will take time to accept this fact but if you keep on telling yourself you will believe in it, eventually. Both of you have to be responsible for the downfall of the union and it will be also both of you who will be responsible for building it back to life. If only one of you is doing all the hard work to make this possible, then it is the relationship that needs mending.
2.Believe that you've done a lot of good in the relationship. There are only a few people in this world who are all good or pure evil. It applies the same in relationships. Both of you have their own strong points and weak points that both of you brings in the relationship. If both just recognize your weaknesses, maximizing your strengths, and work hard on the success of the relationship, then both will benefit from the relationship. Failure to recognize the different contributions you made in the relationship means failure of the relationship as a whole.
3.Don't indulge yourself in guilt. It's normal to recognize the twinge of guilt from time to time but to devote yourself on the relationship just to lessen the burden of guilt is another thing. Doing this means you are crossing over the road to disaster and the downfall of the relationship instead of going to the road to recovery.
4)Remember that your ex did love you as you were, warts and all, and that should be enough to carry both of you through the recovery process.
