subject: Marriage Relationship Problems - 12 Different Changes Between Husband And Wife [print this page] How would you really assess that your marriage is in trouble? Issues on married life are too many to solve anything and everything. These are issues that can cause great damage to the relationship.
Marriage is a sacred covenant and a never ending commitment of love, respect and trust. The true test of marriage is measured on time being spent together facing problems while keeping the relationship intact. On the first few years of marriage,couples are savoring the sweetness of each one, with ultimate love and connection. As time goes by, the couple will get to know more of the personalities they both have, their flaws and even their bad habits snoring while asleep, leaving unwashed dishes, untidy room, unfolded clothes. So any unbearable bad habits and other imperfections which are seen on this stage of marriage, argument is unavoidable to happen which may even lead to severe quarrel. When a spouse ask someone advices or tips on how to save a marriage, it is a big sign that there is something wrong in the relationship. How can the couple say that their marriage is in trouble? Here are some signs that will help the couple decide that marriage should be worked out:
1. You feel as if your partner is not that physically pleasing and his/her her presence annoys you.
2. The arguments have become a routine in marriage.
3. You are less intimate this time: no holding hands while walking around somewhere else.
4. There is a drastic change of your spouse's physical appearance; he/she is now much more concern with how he/she looks.
5. You have different interests; you like to travel, and your spouse wants to go to the beach.
6. You both are comfortable staying and sleeping on different bedrooms.
7. Instead of accepting the mistakes, you both consider those as an ego-damaging to each one which are usually thrown over an argument.
8. Married life is no longer a commitment.
9. Both of you seems unconcern to each other.
10. You focus more on the flaws of your partner and become defensive when being noticed.
11. The marriage is no longer a two-way process.
12. When the partner is asked about the reason of coming home late, he/she gets defensive and accuse you instead of being so suspicious.
Getting into marriage is not an easy task. It cannot be likened to a dress or underwear, that when you feel you are overusing it, you discard and considered it unused. Marriage is not just about happiness. Marriage cannot promise you total happiness but with different experiences both positive and negative that the marriage brings, and so it will give you the best and wonderful experience ever. No one can easily leave the marriage behind because it only means that you also leave your responsibilities for your family. One can only say that marriage is in trouble when signs are present and when this is really happening. Do not simply jump into the idea of separation, instead, both of you must find solutions to the problem.As such, those warning signs would not happen if the couple from the very start deeply love each other and accept each one whole heartedly despite their indifferences and flaws.
