subject: Cheating Isn't All I Thought It Would Be - How Do I Save My Marriage? [print this page] It's not too late to save the marriage after cheating.
Consider that cheating is just another way to realize how important she is to you. Inspire yourself by this thought.
You could never press rewind but don't stuck yourself by that thought. There are still many scenes to be watched so, refrain the fast forward modes. What is the most essential moment - now.
There are many questions stranded in your mind and I know you're in a rush to find out about the answers.
Time is of the Essence
While time can be your friend, the more time you spend doing the wrong things, the more damage you will do to your marriage. Believe me, there is damage that has been done already that will need to be undone or smoothed over. You don't want to add insult on top of the existing injury.
Now is the time to begin sifting through your marriage bit by bit in order to find the small nuggets of golden insight about where things went wrong and what you can do to make them right.
Do this on your own and quietly. Look back at where the distance began and find out if there was an event or argument that was the beginning of the end for the first part of your marriage.
Her opinion also Counts
Instead of running in circles without a point of direction, attempt the other way around. Time is something you can't turn back. Don't wait until you'll keep on wishing of turning back the hands of time. Construct don't destruct.
Find out how your actions or lack of actions affected her and the closeness you once shared. Something happened at some point along the way that changed things. You have to go back, find out what it is, and figure out what needs to be done so that both of you can move forward, forgive, and forget the pain that is bringing your relationship to its knees at the moment.
Be Someone but yourself
Win her heart all over again by becoming the man, in her eyes, you used to be. Yes, people change and some couples do grow apart in time. The only reason that happens though is that the couples in question stop finding new reasons to fall in love with one another day after day.
Go back and embrace the man you were when you met her. Remind her of the vibrancy you used to have and the passion you once shared. After you do that, you should also show her all the changes you've made for the better because she came into your life.
