subject: How To Raise Low Self Esteem In Women [print this page] If you are one of the many low self esteem women walking around in our society today, you are probably looking for ways to change the negative feelings that you have about yourself.
When they have low self esteem women often suffer from negative effects such as depression, anxiety and eating disorders. In many cases, we try to tackle the symptom without looking behind it for the real problem. The path to success and happiness is often not a matter of medication or overcoming our fears but in finding ways to raise our self esteem.
Here are three simple but effective steps that you can take to change your attitude in yourself. In doing that, you may find that you can change your life.
1. Don't let yourself be treated badly
When they have low self esteem women (and men too) will often find partners and friends who support this belief by being mean or treating them badly. For example, a woman may hook up with a man who is alcoholic, repeatedly unfaithful, violent or just puts her down all the time.
If you see this happening to other people, it's easy to give good advice. When it's happening in your own life, it's harder to do what you know is right, but the bottom line is that if you want to be happy, you have to stop accepting being treated this way.
The first step is to make it clear that the bad behavior is not okay any more. If that doesn't work, you may decide to get out of the situation.
2. Learn to say what you think and feel
Many people who have low esteem feel that they are not entitled to have an opinion, because what they think and feel has no value. When somebody says something that you don't agree with, try saying so. There is no need to get angry or make a long speech: just say, "I don't agree."
You will find that the sky does not fall in when you say that. Often times, nothing happens at all. Sometimes somebody will ask you why. If that happens, limit yourself to saying what you think or feel about the question without turning it into a battle about who is right. People can have different opinions without one of them having to be right and the other wrong.
3. Believe people when they give you a compliment
If you have low self esteem and somebody says something nice about you, your instinctive reaction is probably that you don't believe them. You will either assume that they are stupid or weird, or you will think that they are not seeing the real you, or you will believe they are trying to flatter you because they want something.
Your reaction will probably be to put yourself down in some way. This puts them down too, because you are basically telling them they are wrong to like whatever it was that they just complimented you on.
Try just saying "Thank you" and nothing else. If you do this, you are not trying to stop them from liking you. You are saying that you respect their opinion. You might also come to believe it: and then you will no longer have to rank yourself among the many thousands or millions of low self esteem women.
