subject: Get Inside Her Head if You Want Her to Forgive You for Cheating [print this page] If you want your wife to forgive you for cheating you're going to have to get inside her head, just a little bit. You know your wife better than you know anyone else. You probably know her, in some ways, better than she knows herself. You know the things you do that give her "that look" and you know how to make her smile, laugh, and sometimes cry.
You're going to have to play a different role for your wife as you try to convince her to forgive you for cheating on her. You're going to have to figure out who and what she needs you to be to make her feel safe, confident, and forgiving enough to give your marriage the second chance you know you both want.
Know Your Wife as Well as Yourself
What do you know about your wife? You probably know more than you realize. You know how to push her buttons, the good buttons and the "oh no you didn't" buttons. For the purpose of forgiveness, let's try to avoid the latter of the two.
Focus on doing the things that your wife appreciates most from you. You know the sweet sappy things that make her go all doe-eyed on you or at least that have had that effect in good times between the two of you.
Anticipate the Internal Arguments She is Having
This isn't the time when you want to adapt and overcome. You want to overcome her objections to saving your marriage before she even voices them. You want to overwhelm the opposition before it gets a stronghold in her mind. You know the roadblocks she's going to throw up. So diffuse them and their impact on your objective before they have an opportunity to take shape.
You know the old, "I know you think it can never be the same and you're right but we'll work together this time to make sure it's even better" argument.
Be Her White Knight in Shining Armor Again
In her mind your armor is a little bit make that a lot tarnished right now. You need to find a way to redeem yourself in her eyes so she has the perfect excuse to forgive you.
Do something extraordinarily gallant for her. This doesn't mean to go out and buy a new car to try to win her back or anything like that. She wants to forgive you for cheating on her. She just needs a reason to. Make a gesture that she'll understand and appreciate that reminds her of how you swept her off her feet to begin with and gives her the perfect excuse to forgive you this time around.
Get Inside Her Head if You Want Her to Forgive You for Cheating
