subject: How do I get Him to Come Back to Bed After I Cheated? [print this page] Getting your husband to come back to the marriage bed after you cheated can be difficult. It's a huge balancing act in the best of situations. After cheating has delivered a knock out punch to his ego it may have a residual impact on his libido.
In many cases, this is a matter of helping your husband get over the mental image of you in the arms of another man. Unfortunately, that takes giving him a few better and happier mental images to remember. Try these things to build anticipation and spice up your love making after an affair has put your sex life on hold.
1) Try a change of scenery. Sometimes it really is that simple. You can try a different room in the house for a start. If that doesn't work, maybe it's time to go to neutral ground and get out of town for the weekend. Find a nice, out of the way spot with a romantic atmosphere and see how that works for the two of you. The scene can sometimes be the trigger for his inability to perform and changing it can trigger a much more favorable response for both of you. Usually, things will go back to normal once you return home once you've opened the flood gates.
2) Don't be pushy. A little nudge here and there is fine. Avoid full scale arguments and visible signs of frustration whenever possible. Offer and retreat when rebuffed. Give him the time he needs to come to terms with what has happened and accept it. He won't be able to move back into the physical aspect of your relationship until that happens.
3) Ask him if he wants to talk about it. Don't offer information. Just listen to what he has to say and respond as is appropriate for the situation. Many men won't want to discuss it but if your husband is willing to discuss it, make sure you are willing to hear it even if it is painful to listen to.
4) Remember that sex is only a small part of marriage and focus on making the other areas of your marriage stronger in hopes that your husband will come back to you when he is ready or feels confident that you are going to do your part to save your marriage.
5) Remind your husband often that you love him regardless. Be creative in all the ways you show your husband love. Eventually, he'll come to remember and will be able to give you the physical attention you both need as well.
How do I get Him to Come Back to Bed After I Cheated?
