subject: Steps to Managing Conflict Effectively in Relationship Communication [print this page] Every one has had that one bad fight with their partner or significant other that seems to make both of you wonder about the point of it all, and it's very easy to succumb to the fears, doubts and anger that arise in conflicts within your relationship.
At the base of most conflicts is a simple, often times avoidable problem with ineffective communication that prevents mutual respect and understanding. Here are a few steps for you to follow to effectively manage conflict in your relationship that may be affecting your communication.
RECOGNIZE THE PROBLEM
The most crucial step toward restoring the communication gap in your relationship and managing the conflicts that arise within is the ability to recognize whatever the problem is, describe as dispassionately as possible the roots of the problem, and find agreement with your significant other about this recognition. A problem can not be solved if its parameters can not be clearly articulated and agreed upon.
CONTROL THE STRESS AND EMOTIONS
One of the most important things to remember when a conflict arises in your relationship is to manage stress levels and manage your emotions. Do not let the other person bait you into a fight, try to remember to not take the conflict personally, and that the quickest path back toward open, honest communication and conflict resolution is through a calm and reasoned discussion, not through angry and explosive outbursts.
BE FEARLESS, NOT RECKLESS
It is vitally important to not allow yourself to succumb to fear during a conflict, as a fearful frame of mind will make it incredibly difficult to think clearly, to manage your emotions, and to remain open, honest and sincere with your significant other.
Try to be earnest in resolving the conflict, do not be afraid of your partner and try to not take personal offense to anything said in the heat of the moment. This, of course, is not a license to be reckless. Being fearless is not the same thing as careless, and you must always try to be cognizant of your partner's own point of view.
BE RESPONSIVE
Don't be the proverbial bump on a log during a conflict with your partner in a relationship. For any hope of communication restoration, an honest and open give-and-take must be at play, where both you and your partner's feelings, frustrations, thoughts and concerns are treated as equally valid and worthy of discussion. Each of you are 50% of the relationship and play a role in effectively managing any conflict between each of you.
Steps to Managing Conflict Effectively in Relationship Communication
