subject: You Never Thought She Would Cheat – How Can You Trust Her Now? [print this page] You never in a million years would have believed that your beautiful, loving, bright, and loyal wife would have cheated on you. How can you trust her now that she has cheated?
This is a dilemma that more and more men are facing as women become more prevalent in the workplace and as technology makes it possible to get in touch and stay in touch with people around the world.
The more common and frequent contact women have with other men the greater the possibilities that she will at some point be tempted to cheat are. Now that she has, you're going to have a little bit of trouble trusting her around any other man. This can be a real problem in relationships that require a certain amount of trust in order to function.
Honestly, you can't be together 24 hours a day each and every day. It's not good for any relationship to do that anyway. You're going to have to give her a certain amount of trust but that doesn't mean you have to give all or nothing trust.
In fact, you'd be more than a little reckless to instantly try to go back to the same level of trust she enjoyed before you found out she was cheating on you. Where should you begin?
Keep Tabs Minimally
You don't need to call every 30 minutes while your wife is at work or while you are at work and she's home alone. It may be tempting, if for nothing else to keep tabs on where she is at the moment, but it really isn't good for both of you.
What you can do though is perform a couple of checks at random times throughout the day to see if she is where she says she'll be. You'll both know what's going on but you probably both need that little additional communication for a while. There's no accusation just a check to put your mind and hers at ease.
Don't Dive In
It takes time to work up to the level of trust you had before you found out about the cheating. Don't expect overnight miracles and be willing to go back in your marriage so that you'll have a marriage to move forward with.
It's when you start to push things or pretend to have a deeper level of trust than either of you can handle that bigger problems begin to crop up. Start small and work up to bigger issues of trust. This will help you learn to rebuild the trust you've lost one day at a time.
You Never Thought She Would Cheat How Can You Trust Her Now?
