subject: Recognizing Divorce Signs In Your Marriage [print this page] If your marriage is in trouble then it is time to act. Waiting until you get served with divorce papers is the wrong time to worry about the troubles you are having. In order to stop trouble before it starts you may need to look for divorce signs.
Signs to look for
Divorce rarely comes out of nowhere. There are little telling signs that should clue you in way before the divorce papers are ever filed.
Imagining life without the other is one sign that things are not right in your life. Every marriage has little moments when you get so aggravated with each other that you need some time alone. You may even think that your life without the other one would be better, but thinking these thoughts on a continuing basis is a sign that something is severely wrong.
Bad times happen to even the best of marriages, but when the bad times start outweighing the good then you may be heading for divorce. Bad times that have gotten way out of hand can cause your relationship to end.
You stop having sexual relations. Granted sex is not everything, but it is an important part of a marriage that allows couples connect on levels that they are not able to connect with anyone else. When this stops then it could be a sign of trouble or maybe even infidelity.
Secrets in a marriage can lead to discord. There is no reason for anyone to have to keep secrets from their spouse. If there are shady things going on then it could be a clue that someone is doing something very wrong.
If your spouse is suddenly being very secretive then you should worry about the longevity of your marriage. Someone acting suddenly shady is a signal of sexual infidelity. You should not be overly paranoid about this, but it is important to recognize these things when they happen.
Saving things
All marriages have problems, and just because you are having marital problems does not mean you are heading for a divorce. If you do find that your marriage is on the wrong track there may be a few things to do in order to save your marriage.
Discuss what is going on: When you identify that your marriage is in turmoil then it is time to talk. Communication is very important when it comes to saving a marriage. Try not to talk things out when you are arguing. Things can quickly escalate and things will be said that cause more harm than good. When you are both being level headed then it is time to talk.
Be willing to work on it: No marriage can be saved if you both are not willing to work at it. One person wanting to save a marriage means that the other one has already moved on and no longer has any interest in the relationship.
Being able to see divorce signs early in your marital strife will allow you to try and change what might be. As long as both of you are willing to work then it is worth your effort to try.
