subject: Learn To Analyze, Compromise, And Reconcile To Save A Marriage Separation From Divorce [print this page] Readers of this article are most likely married people who are in a state of marriage separation or about to be in a state of marriage separation. The very act of reading this article implies that you either want to get back together with your spouse or you do not want to separate in the first place. Well, I am here to give you a hand. Why? Because I think marriage is a divine union and needs to stay in tact at all costs. I am not saying there is anything wrong with separation. It can be perfectly healthy and rejuvenating for the marriage. Most people just do not understand the steps that need to be taken and the ones that do not need to be taken. That is why the key to salvaging a marriage separation from divorce requires at least three main concepts. Those concepts are analysis, compromise, and reconciliation.
The first concept, if you are separated, is to analyze the situation. There was a reason that your spouse or ex spouse said enough is enough. Chances are they have been warning you or threatening you about something for years. Maybe you had been stopping by the bar on the way home from work everyday for a few years and coming home drunk. Your spouse was fed up and after years of worry they decided enough was enough. You need to figure out the reason and then decide how the situation can be resolved. In this case, stop going by the bar everyday and coming home drunk. There are endless examples of reasons that I can come up with. The point is to really think about the situation and decide what went wrong and if you are willing to try to fix it or can it even be fixed. Some situations may not be fixable. The marriage may end.
The second concept is compromise. When you pinpoint the problem or issue, you are going to have to sacrifice and make the necessary changes. You might or might not have to give up everything. Concede to your partner that you are absolutely willing to change. A marriage vow should be taken seriously. Once you are married you owe it to yourself, your kids, and your God to try your best to make your marriage work.
The final concept is to reconcile. That simply means to get all of the issues worked out and get on the same page. You are finalizing the issues at hand and going to do the things necessary to save the relationship. You are restoring the harmony in the relationship by doing romantic and loving things together.
Those concepts are part of the requirements for getting back together. Analyzing, compromising, and reconciling are the backbone of what has to take place to get back together. There are also things that must not happen when you are separated or your chances of getting back together go way down. You need to learn those also.
