subject: Is Infidelity Worth A Second Chance? [print this page] If a second chance is all that is needed for your husband to cheat on you again why on earth should you give your husband a second chance after he cheats? It's actually an excellent question and one that every woman considering working things out in her marriage with a cheating husband needs to consider.
Here is something you might consider before you make that life changing decision.
Once a Cheater; Always a Cheater?
It has been said many times that once someone cheats there is no going back. That person will always be a cheater. I hope life isn't always that absolute. I believe that you could miss out on something really special if you always and only judge others by actions taken in the past.
So, no, I don't believe that the fact he has cheated on you in the past guarantees that he will cheat in the future. However, there are changes that need to be made in the relationship before it goes forward that will further diminish the likelihood of him cheating again.
The L___ word called LOVE
Whether you read the Bible as a religious book or simply appreciate it as a beautiful work of literature, it is hard to argue with I Corinthians 13 and the take it has on love. The simple logic of this passage is beyond compare.
Try to think about the love that you have for your husband and also the love that he has for you. If the love that you have for him is not enough for you to forgive him then there's no way to work the relationship.
Not only that, consider the love he has for you as that might help you decide if your marriage is worth the second try.
Never Hold On to Anger
The final reason that forgiveness really is divine when it comes to your cheating ex husband is all about you. Being negative all the time and holding on to the anger, pain, and sense of betrayal that goes along with finding out he has been cheating is hard on you. It turns you into a person you probably don't like all that much. When you forgive, give second chances, and agree to let go of the pain you both have a fresh start and the anger doesn't threaten to take over.
