subject: 4 Strong Reasons Why Cheating Ruins Marriages [print this page] A lot of people wonder why cheating cause marriages to fall apart. It's such a big fuss that a lot of couples are going on divorce just because they've found out their partners had sex with another person. So what if your husband had sex? It's just sex, alright, no big deal. For others this might be the case but for some this is a big deal. Getting caught cheating means you are in big trouble.
Why is Cheating so Damaging to Marriages?
1.Cheating is an act that breaks the marriage vow. If others are not serious about their marriage vow, there are those who are serious about what they've vowed for. That means be faithful to your spouse, no secrets, no cheating. For a partner to break this vow, it also means shattering the trust of that person in you to pieces.
2.Cheating hurts the one you love. For those who are caught cheating, they don't cheat because they woke up one day feeling they don't love their partners anymore or they suddenly stopped loving their other half. What happened is that they get caught in a situation where they can't help but to surrender to the waves and go with the flow. This does not make cheating the right act but are just things that they can't avoid and love has nothing to do with why they committed this act. Hurting the ones they loved is the last thing that a cheater will do.
3)It introduces new secrets and lies to the relationship. While full disclosure about any and every thing may not be the best case for all relationships, lies and secrets on par with the ones that are told in order to hide an affair or buy time with the "other person" drive a wedge between partners and erode the relationship from the inside out. For many who have been cheated on it's the lies and the secrets that were the most devastating. They knew something was going on and that all was not well but couldn't pinpoint what was really going on. It's also the hardest part to forgive but it feels like an added insult to the injury that cheating introduced to the relationship to begin with.
4) It destroys the confidence of the spouse. Self-confidence can be such a beautiful thing. When you are married you want the person you are married to be filled with the light of self-confidence and the understanding that he or she can accomplish great things. You want your spouse to know that he or she is a wonderful person and you want your spouse to feel safe in the comfort of your love. Cheating breaks down the foundation of self-confidence in your spouse. It leaves your spouse feeling doubt, hurt, and like a failure.
