subject: Dating With a Side of Self Esteem [print this page] We all want to be at the top of the dating ladder, getting the pick of the crop, and maintaining a long lasting, healthy relationship. However, your self esteem is not up to par. Well you are not alone. Many people face the problem of lacking the necessary self esteem that guides them to the social goals they wish to achieve. Simply put, you know what you want but you do not have the confidence or guidance to get to where you deserve to be, and that is in a wonderful relationship.
This problem can be fixed more easily than you can imagine. Did you know that self esteem is all in your head? Seriously. Many people face self esteem issues because they place their mental image next to someone else's, usually a very successful, good looking celebrity. Let's face it; many of us do not match up perfectly to these images of people we feel who do not have any discrepancies in their appearances. You notice things that you consider to be personal flaws with yourself, such as your ears stick out a little too much or your nose is just a bit too big. You put so much emphasis on these minor flaws, when in reality most people out there do not even recognize these setbacks in your confidence. Here's why, you look at yourself far more often and in far more detail than anyone else could ever do so. You see what you view as a flaw, and over time you compound this flaw by over analyzing it and putting more concern in it. When it's all said and done, you blow something so small out of major proportion. If you continue to allow these false self images to control your life, you will miss out on finding the person you deserve and who views you for who you truly are and not what you have built yourself into believing who you are.
In order to raise your self esteem, you must have the strength to put any self image issues behind you. You have to accept yourself. After all, self esteem starts with you. Forget what other people may think for a second, and remember that you are who you want to be. If you carry yourself with confidence and forget about all of your self esteem drawbacks, then your peers will never notice your drawbacks. They will see a confident person, and this will tell them that you have a reason to be confident. Other people see you for the person you hold yourself as. Walk around down in the dumps, and people will think you are a worthless, unworthy person. Walk around with a high spirited, confident step in your walk, and people will see you as a role model, someone they will love to be. This will lead you to be fully capable of attracting a person of the opposite sex that will jump at the chance to go to dinner with you. You are in control. Put your self image issues aside. Focus on your strengths. Flaunt your new self confidence. And your self esteem will be primal to achieve your relationship desires.
