subject: Will My Marriage Endure The Treachery Of My Wife? [print this page] Marriages today have enough to struggle withMarriages today have enough to struggle with. How can my marriage survive a cheating wife? The reality is that your marriage can survive anything you are both willing to work to overcome.
Everything goes on depending on how well you work it out and it varies accordingly. Cheating is something that you must exert more of your effort to build trust again.
Things to consider - when working out with your cheating wife to reawaken the flame in your marriage.
1) Just do it. Being passive to the violation of your wife is so unusual, but being too reactive without you hearing her explanation is so unprofessional at all. The actuality that your wife had deceived you hit your ego but doesn't make it a reason to unreasonably burst out or do absurd things. Instead, list down the things you want to achieve and do something about it.
2)Start over before moving forward. The one mistake that many couples in your situation make is that they try very hard to move forward with the relationship and pretend that nothing ever happened. While it may seem a little easier on a mental level to do this, it doesn't do anything to fix the problems that led to your wife's cheating in the first place. You can't just fill in the pothole with sand and keep driving over it in hopes that it will never knock things off course again. You have to dig down deep, get to the root of the problem. Sometimes you must go all the way down and re-grade the road to start over altogether in order to have a smoother ride for the long haul.
3)Practice forgiveness of your wife and yourself. There is a lot of blame to go around when relationships go off course via a cheating wife. You both blame each other to some degree for where things went wrong but you both blame yourselves even more. It's time to stop playing the blame game and let yourself and your wife off the hook. It won't be easy but the reward for doing so is a marriage the can survive anything - even a cheating wife.
