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Congruenceis important in dating.
Congruenceis important in dating.

Ever met someone who thought they were the most moral and ethical

person in the world and never missed an opportunity to remind you

of that?

Kind of annoying, huh? Especially when you start to examine their

behavior and discover what they call "ethics and morals"

conveniently explains away their bad behavior.

If you want to be a man who not only attracts women, but keeps

them, your words and behaviors have got to match up. Incongruity

is always an attraction killer.

Incongruity is caused when there's a gap between words and

behavior, and the wider

the gap, the more the incongruity

(politicians, especially those advocating higher taxes while

cheating the tax man themselves, are the perfect example of this).

What you want to do is to make sure there's a minimal gap, a gap

you're always striving to close. No one is going to be perfect

100% of the time--but those who strive to be are much more congruent

than those who don't.

Women take notice of men who do their best to make their deeds and

words match. Most men don't- in fact they do the opposite, running

their mouths, talking up their own superiority and making promises

they can't possibly keep.

What happens is, women quickly notice words and behavior don't

match, and they're disappointed yet again. But when she meets a

man whose words and behavior match closely, it's a different

story--she recognizes him as rare, and is more prone to sticking

around.

Now, notice I said words and behavior must match, not that you have

to promise the moon, then deliver it. If most men simply dialed

down their talk and proclamations, limiting it to what they really

can deliver and who they really are, warts and all, they'd

instantly become more attractive to women.

Sure, you should strive to make yourself into an honorable man, and

you should strive to achieve things--but let your actions speak for

you. Women will notice without you saying a thing, and in this

case, silence speaks louder than words.

Remember, women love integrity and congruence in men.

Let other, lesser men babble on while you go about your business

quietly, syncing up your words and deeds while they wonder why you

attract so many women and they don't.

Let your congruence be your calling card in your dating life.

by: Ron aka Nice Guy

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