subject: Marriage Infidelity - Recovering From Unfaithfulness [print this page] Marriage infidelity is one of if not the hardest marital issue to recover from but it's not an impossible thing to do. If you or your spouse is guilty of committing adultery you already know the pain and heartache which results from marriage infidelity.
Why Did The Affair Happen?
There are many different scenarios by which an affair begins but most often there is an innocent relationship that eventually turns into something more. It's no different than when two individuals meet and start to realize that they have something in common.
Before you know it they begin to fill each others emotional needs and then have an attraction towards one another that's beyond emotional. Unfortunately when some needs are not being met in a marriage spouses allow others to fill the void, instead of working with their spouse.
It is important to work through all of the reasons and issues in the marriage to truly understand why marriage infidelity occurred, especially if couples try to work things out.
Should I Forgive the Marriage Infidelity?
You should not forgive the act of infidelity but your spouse for committing adultery. Whether you decide ultimately to remain in the relationship or leave it's important for you to forgive your spouse.
Complete healing will only be present after the affair if you can forgive your spouse. You will most likely forgive him or her after you have processed through the post affair emotional feelings of anger, resentment, denial, sadness, confusion and brokenness.
Once you are able to forgive peace and hope will replace anger and fear of the future.
Can You Ever Trust Again?
Yes, once your spouse has earned the right to be trusted and respected. By committing marriage infidelity trust was destroyed and needs to be re-built.
What Are The Next Steps
Obviously the marriage infidelity has created pain and suffering in your marriage and life and it will take time to recover and heal. It's important that you begin to move forward and not let the affair paralyze your life. Deal with the affair and begin to move forward (with or without your spouse).
I hope you can take a few more minutes and read up on a couple who survived marriage infidelity and now are happier than you could imagine. See here for more details; Affair Repair
Marriage Infidelity - Recovering From Unfaithfulness
