subject: Relationship Advice - Spot the Early Signs of a Relationship Breakup and How to Stop It [print this page] It is very unusual that a relationship breakup will just come out of the blue. Long before it reaches that stage there will be warning signs. Spotting these signs and acting to do something about them is the key to avoiding a relationship breakup. What are the early signs of a relationship breakup? Read on for some pointers that may help you to spot them in your partnership.
One of the sure signs of a relationship in crisis is if all you do when you are together is argue. If you can't be in the same room without bickering then this problem needs to be addressed. I don't mean if you have the occasional disagreement you should be worried, it is just as unhealthy if you never disagree, but if you constantly snipe at each other, and never really kiss and make up, then you need to do something before it is too late.
Another sign is if your partner starts to spend more time with other people than they do with you. Again if you are always together and never have time with other friends, or have outside interests, this is also unhealthy. It is when they spend most of their time with friends, and don't seem to want to spend time with you, when you should take it as a sign of trouble brewing.
If you feel your partnership is heading for crisis, or worse complete breakdown, the worst thing you can do is ignore it. The first thing you should do is decide whether you really do want to save things. Sometimes these signs are an indicator that maybe you are not right for each other, in this case it is possible that the best path for you is to breakup. At least the signs have told you what to do, so it should be as painless as a breakup can be.
If on the other hand you want to fix things, and repair the problems, then the key is communication. Often your partner will be completely unaware of the situation you are in. The best way to approach this is to have a calm discussion with them. Avoid laying blame, and at all times keep calm. Let them know what is bothering you and suggest solutions. You should ask them to make suggestions too.
The problems wont be fixed overnight, but in all too many cases the only reason things get to the point of you breaking up, is that you just didn't communicate your feelings to each other effectively. Talking can only be a positive step, and at least you will both know where you stand.
You should now be able to spot the early signs of a relationship breakup. Acting on these signs when you see them, and not burying your head in the sand, is one of the main keys to a healthy and long lasting relationship.
Relationship Advice - Spot the Early Signs of a Relationship Breakup and How to Stop It
